“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

[...] He thought of his mother as possessing a strong will. His mother was authoritative to a degree. [...] He feared his mother far more, however, and he tried to temper his own behavior, to ally the intuitions and the intellect or will.

Your other dream involves Miss Bowman’s desire for death—her knowledge that although her mother died at an old age she is young and active at another level of reality—and it was Miss Bowman’s image of her mother as a younger woman that you saw. [...]

I am seeing to your mother’s comfort. Psychically she has met Daisy (the deceased wife of my mother’s brother Frank), and is in connection with Ruburt. You have friends because of your work and association with me, and your mother will be well cared for. [...] Tell Ruburt that others helped his mother as he helps yours.

It seems unnatural to some people to hear of animals’ mothers who refuse to nurse one offspring, or sometimes even attack it — but in those instances the animal mother is instinctively aware of the situation, and acts to save the offspring from future suffering.

It also seems that each fetus must naturally desire to grow, emerge whole from its mother’s womb, and develop into a natural childhood and adulthood. [...]

Jane’s mother old enemy. [...]

(“Free will exercised during this present incarnation on the part of Jane’s mother?”)

(Jane’s mother is a bedridden arthritic, and has been since Jane was a very young girl.

(Jane said her mother does have a friend, Mary Miller, who did housekeeping for Jane and her mother when Jane was perhaps seven years old. [...] Mary Miller is the same age as Jane’s mother.

One small rather insignificant point, Joseph: the man for whom Ruburt works—the name, Miller—is also the name of one of his mother’s old friends, though she was a woman. [...]

[...] They remind him of a pair of his mother’s shoes.

[...] His mother had attempted suicide several times. On a deeply unconscious level he worried that perhaps symbolically he did not want to save the woman—who was, incidentally a mother. He felt responsible for his own mother’s suicide attempts, to some degree, and this added to the situation.

[...] My mother, who now lives with Dick and his wife and family, made the trip back with Jane and me as far as the parking lot at Enfield Glen, Ithaca, where we met my other brother, Loren. Mother was transferred to Loren’s car during an interlude in a driving rainstorm. [...]

[...] Ideally, infants “bond” with their parents, particularly with the mother but with the father also—and then they “bond” with the general ideas of their society. [...]

[...] Ruburt’s relationship with his mother left much to be desired. [...]

[...] Now remember that Ruburt’s mother used words like “I hereby disown you,” or “You are hereby disinherited,” or “I consider you no longer my daughter.” [...]

[...] Such encounters provide an emotional support that cements feelings with your fellow beings, and that in a fashion helps minimize in the present some of the defects of Ruburt’s childhood relationship with his mother. [...]

[...] She again could not tell me what their source was, although we were pretty sure the same things were involved — mostly her mother. [...]

[...] He is in no way responsible for his mother’s problems, and no matter how strong his fears, universal energy lifts him up regardless of all else. [...]

One, the personality of the mother offered needed experience for Ruburt; and two, the paganistic personality of the father was in some degree like his own past personalities though in a much more vague and watered-down way. A miscarriage later on the part of Ruburt’s mother represented an entity who changed his mind so to speak. [...]

His circumstances of birth made it difficult for him to overindulge in the rich things of life, although his present mother used rich foods as compensation for other things, and this example opened Ruburt’s eyes and actually started him on the road to self-discipline.

[...] The personality of Ruburt’s mother was not close to him in any other life. [...]

[...] Ruburt is afraid that if he does not operate quickly he will be symbolically caught and crippled as is the case with his present mother.

In regard to your dream: The shakiness represented values and ideas from your mother, primarily about work — beliefs you always felt were shaky. [...]

(4:14 p.m. Seth, then, verified my own pendulum information about my mother’s beliefs and my reactions to them being involved with my shaky right hand.)

[...] He was terrified that his mother had died during the night when he was very young, and could not help him. [...] In the deepest trouble he doubted your feeling for him also, and in exaggerated panic felt that you would feel released if he died, as he felt that he would feel released as an adolescent if his mother died. [...]

[...] Some guilt here, since in the past if he slept four hours he would have known that he slept through his mother’s call. [...]

The funeral (of my mother on November 19, 1973), family considerations, thoughts of buying a house, brought up difficulties. [...]

[...] (About Jane and me being essentially alone in that world now after my mother’s death, etc.) In the inner order of events he is walking nearly normally, but the challenge to beliefs must take place on that outer level, and this is now occurring. [...]

[...] Your mother was ashamed of your father’s being home, for example. [...]

[...] In a certain way your mother’s death releases it.

Children would fare far better if the ancient parental qualities were not so forcibly focused upon the mother. This in itself leads to more dependence upon the mother than is healthy, and forms an artificial allegiance between mother and child against the father.

[...] Mother love is the only category that is considered wholesome, and therefore nonsexual under most conditions. [...]

[...] During our conversation Jane said that today—November 4—was her mother’s birthday. For the life of me I couldn’t recall my own mother’s birthday. [...]

[...] On a visit to their home this summer we met Marie’s mother, in Elmira on a visit from New Jersey. Marie had made the trip to New Jersey, to get her mother, by train.

(We thought this connection with “a trip by train” might be the distant connection referred to by Seth, when we remembered that while Marie Colucci’s mother had been visiting in Elmira, the mother’s husband died of a heart attack at home in New Jersey, while bowling. [...]

[...] This is the somewhat complicated sequence of events here: Marie Colucci took the train to her parents’ home in New Jersey, and drove her mother back to Elmira in the parental automobile. When Marie’s father died of a heart attack in NJ, Marie drove her mother back to Jersey in the parental car, then returned to Elmira herself by train.)

The automobile was the mother’s automobile, which was parked outside of the Colucci residence the evening you visited. [...]

(8:54.) Ruburt always wanted to help his mother, and felt largely powerless to do so. His mother’s condition made him ask questions, of course, concerning man’s condition, at a very early age. [...] Again, he was in no way responsible for his mother’s condition, however, or for her unhappiness, nor is he in those terms responsible for the unhappy situations of other people. [...]

[...] “What’s the matter,” I asked her after supper tonight, “do you feel guilty because you think you deserted your mother?” I explained that I felt self-punishment, a feeling of unworthiness, self-doubt and mistrust must lie at the root of her symptoms—that she felt she must pay a price for each success, like the publishing of a book. [...]

[...] His mother frequently told him that she would keep him only if he was good, that only Marie’s good graces kept the child from going to an asylum. The mother’s affections were not the child’s by right, but dependent upon how well the child cared or performed.

As has been noted, all normal aggressive feelings toward the mother had to be masked. The mother frequently took away gifts that she had given the child, when the child misbehaved, making it clear that even these were not the child’s by right.

To voice any dissatisfaction to you verbally was highly difficult, for you could then take away your love and affection, as his mother did, for she would not stand, in Ruburt’s eyes, for such voiced aggression. [...]

[...] He saw this woman, who is stocky and in her fifties or early sixties, at his mother’s funeral, for the first time in many years, and now remembered that L.B. had been a close friend of his mother’s when he [John] was a child.

A relationship with one woman beside the mother here connected. [...]

[...] John’s mother died a few weeks ago in Philadelphia. [...]

Now, the crucial mother identification is passed, and Ruburt is left with a system of habit, still based on some but relatively little mother identification. [...]

When Ruburt’s mother went to the hospital in his high-school years, he had a symbolic way of ridding the house of her psychic presence, and to add to his own sense of inner freedom. [...]

(10:15.) If you are to be born as a male, then the mother serves as a stimulus to activate the symbol of the anima in you, so that the pattern of your own female lives becomes a portion of your next existence. Your mother, if you have known her in the past, will find at your birth an upsurge of dreams involving other existences in which the two of you were together.

[...] In some cases new mothers may feel highly aggressive and nervous. [...]