“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

Naturally, left alone, men and women would cry without embarrassment, for crying would have no connotations of defeat, any more than the sky is embarrassed when it rains. Built-up tensions obviously lead to depression. In a male crying is considered the worst kind of behavior. In a woman who regards herself as intellectual, the same connotations apply.

The physical condition is improving. As I stated this does not mean that at certain stages if his knees hurt he cannot cry, or that either of you should consider that a defeat. Indeed, the expression is a natural part of healing, and leads to great communication. He has been hungrier lately. He is using more nourishment, building new cells, and should be alert so that he eats however often when he feels the impulse. Since it is late I will end our session—but I leave some energy with you. Use it as you will. My heartiest regards and a fond good evening.

[...] Say it is a mood of defeat. He should realize that he is not defeated but that he has a mood of defeat. [...]

[...] Ruburt’s impatience, then, should not be overdone, for then it defeats its purpose. [...]

It is self-defeating, therefore, to blame yourself for mistakes, so-called, simply because in the light of your present development they are seen as less-developed acts than those to which you now aspire. [...]

[...] I could list many more, but probably won’t. I still don’t think Seth would want to spend much time discussing that old material in any detail, since he’s said many times that focusing on what was wrong in the past is negative and self-defeating. [...]

Now: it is fruitless to go back to old sessions seeking to find out what is wrong, or what was wrong and self-defeating. [...]

If you thought of some particular motions that would help you and add to your performance, it would of course be obvious self-defeatism if you said ahead of time “No, it probably would not work. [...]

[...] Your challenge, then, if you believe in the photographs, is to send them out even if it means risking them, rather than refusing the expression of the ideal, which is always self-defeating. [...]

[...] With sons, he felt that he should not show emotions of defeat, and he felt that communication itself had the feminine overtones of an unfortunate nature. [...]

You must remember it is easy, and, again, quite understandable, that oftentimes others seem to be the source of defeats. But these defeats are always caused by inner spiritual or psychic problems that have not been faced or solved.

He fears that the admission of one defeat or error of judgment will bring his world crumbling about him.

[...] I said it was beside the point—but beyond that it is somewhat self-defeating. [...]

[...] Even if we could manage this, I fear we’d end up so regimented that half of the tasks would be self-defeating. [...]

[...] The situation became self-defeating.”

[...] The portion of her personality that had been speaking sounded hurt and defeated, and in the process of retreat. [...]

[...] This can apply to actual work on a manuscript, intellectual excitement, or intuitional discovery, but a humdrum creative ritual is defeating for him. [...]

[...] It is a method that he tried, but it did not work because it defeated its own purposes.

[...] This is a relatively difficult feat, for the waking consciousness must not be shut off, or you defeat your purpose.

[...] This gives him a first defeat for the day, you see, and early. [...]

If your purpose is to comprehend what other living creatures perceive, then the methods you are using are at the best shortsighted, and at the worst they completely defeat your purpose. [...]

[...] Its actions, as they are, are clearly self-defeating. [...]

In that instance also, your natures are known, so that the sales increase will happen in a way that beneficially suits all of your other goals, and in no way defeats them.

[...] (Almost with a laugh:) Under certain conditions it may be a mark of sanity—but it is highly self-defeating to put yourself in a position where you cannot go out into the world—or more importantly, where you cannot navigate as a creature.

[...] Anything else would defeat their purpose.