([Brad:] “In many ways my relationship with my wife has been destructive. I am now at a crossroads where I could end this relationship. However, I feel a strong relationship with her, perhaps a karmic relationship—something I must solve with her in this life. “)

Now. There is not a karmic relationship with her. She stands in your mind for someone else with whom you did have a karmic relationship. That is not, however, your main problem. You have attempted in many ways to set up a strong relationship with your environment. You have tried to do this through weight. You have tried to say, “I am here solidly. (Pause.) Look at me. Who is more real than I for I take up so many inches of space? I weigh so much, I am here.” At the same time, you were afraid of physical reality, and because of your environment in this life, you are afraid that you could not deal with it. You must first prove to yourself that you can indeed deal with it.

This is a natural situation. However, the situation is a cover over the initial problem. And you will get nowhere—either in the relationship or without it—until you assert yourself in relation to your environment and realize that you are strong enough on your own to survive in physical reality. This is the problem that has been shielded behind the relationship. It is your fear that you could not survive that made you cling to the relationship. And it is still that fear that would make you want to continue it.

There is a friend of yours who does not have too much time here. Now I am speaking comparatively and am not giving you times and dates. This is a male. It is a strange relationship you had, for he was an uncle of yours in a past life. And there are undercurrents that still remain. The undercurrents are important—they make sense of a relationship that otherwise would make you question it—for why do you like this person so much, you see? And he was a beloved uncle. Now there seems to be another younger man connected perhaps with one of your daughters, who may be offered either a new job or something new in his line of work that may tax him and yet he will feel that he must accept it—for he is driven by ambition—and he will accept it. There is also a younger woman close to you and with her there will be an entirely new turn, a change of lifestyle.

Your relationship is a good one, compared to most an excellent one, but you know your inner potentials, and the potentials of that relationship, and how much you have to some degree failed it. Obviously you have not entirely failed by any means, and you have always maintained an underground basis of loyalty and love; but you are each deeply disappointed with that relationship compared to what you know it can be.

Your relationship and your lives in general, you see, follow certain definite patterns set by you. Your work and your relationship are interwoven. [...]

[...] Many would be far more than satisfied with your relationship, but you set yourselves high goals, both in your work and in your personal lifelong relationship with each other, and you suffer when you are not true to this.

[...] As far as the relationship is concerned you face each other distantly. Out of the potential relationship interactions are possible that will make great changes in your lives, your individual work, and our work.

I am speaking of a deeper relationship to the environment, however, and of the environment’s symbolic as well as practical aspects in relationship to health and illness. Your ideas about your own body, your mind, the universe and your part in it, and your relationship to family, friends, and environment are all connected to your state of health, to your sense of well-being, or your feelings of dis-hyphen-ease. [...]

[...] It is possible, however, to carry this idea even further, so that a person in poor health should be seen by the physician in relationship to the family, and also in relationship to the environment. [...]

Many psychiatrists and psychologists now realize that a disturbed client (long pause) cannot be helped sufficiently unless the individual is considered along with his or her relationship to the family unit.

[...] There are, however, hidden relationships that exist between various parts of the body — and the parts themselves are hardly mechanical. [...]

[...] Inner invisible relationships are allowed to rise, the acknowledged recognized reality viewed through the lenses of these emerging relationships. Then the cordella changes its nature, becomes another new emerging group of relationships, another lens in other words. [...]

Instead the relationship between objects will be stressed through sound. The emphasis will be on an object’s “placement,” (in quotes) in title and space as you think of it, and on the ever-changing pattern of force that constantly alter relationships of any kind.

[...] The emotional basis of your relationship is beginning to take its proper balance and direction. [...]

(9:39.) There will be words for example for feelings that you will be asked to imaginatively change into objects and back again, to project into time as you think of it, and sense the differences in the feeling’s relationship to yourself. [...]

[...] Several hours devoted on occasion to intimate relationships of sexual nature would be advantageous, simply because of the implied suggestion that you were not only willing but anxious to devote yourself to her. [...] The physical relationship then would indeed open psychic channels, where understanding becomes intuitional. [...]

[...] However the relationship between her own parents has been destructive. [...]

[...] It was this way from the beginning of their relationship.

This is merely a question of relationships, where any thought of blame is meaningless. [...]

There are also passing relationships, contacts made and then dropped. A mate from any given life, for example, may or may not represent someone with whom you have a deep abiding tie, and again you may marry someone because of highly ambiguous feelings from a past life, and choose a married relationship that is not based upon love, though love may emerge.

There is an inner logic to your current relationships, attitudes, and experiences. [...]

[...] There is an overall pattern to relationships within lives, and yet this does not mean that you travel through various existences with the same limited and familiar number of friends and acquaintances, merely altered like actors with a change of face or costume.

[...] Deep relationships will continue in one way or another. [...]

[...] A division of responsibility for your relationship was far less satisfactory. [...] This will put the concentration of attention in constructive areas, upon warmth and mutual understanding rather than putting the burden of the relationship first on one and then on the other.

[...] I want to emphasize the importance of your personal relationship to each other, and mention the ways in which it affects your work. [...]

When your relationship becomes uneasy to a certain degree, then this impedes the spontaneity that you allow yourself in your paintings. [...]

[...] You were aware of it but you did not understand, generally speaking, that your relationship must be actively and positively enjoyable on a daily basis, if both of you are to produce the work that you want.

Now this also overshadows your relationship with the males to whom you have come in contact. For you have been, on the one hand, terrified of them, and on the other hand wanted a normal relationship. Give me a moment here —on the one hand you desire more from a relationship with a man than you have any right to expect. No human being could ever deliver what you expect a man to deliver in a relationship. [...]

[...] You will never have any relationship with the Dick Reed that you have projected upon a living human being. You may have a relationship with that human being, but there is a world of difference between that human being and the imagined image of him to which you react. [...] You have no chance in a thousand lives of having a relationship with the man you think of as being Dick Reed, because you cannot have a two-way relationship with an image that is one-sided and has no flesh. [...]

Now, you overreact in a relationship with a male. [...] You constantly explore an expression for a sign that you are being rejected and this is directly related to your early relationship with your father. [...] And as you tried as a child to think ahead of your father to see what he might be angry at, so you do the same thing now in a relationship with a male to whom you are attracted. [...]

[...] You also project it in any of your relationships, as a rule, with men who are older than yourself. You do not want to or had not wanted to face even a transient relationship with a man because you did not then have time, you see, to project this image in any dependable manner. [...] Practice in such relationships would allow you to get used to an environment without this image. [...]

You may be in the middle of one or several very unsatisfactory relationships, none of which seem to be caused by you, while instead you feel as if you are an unwilling victim or participant.

(Long pause at 4:19.) In most cases, even the most severe illnesses or complicated living conditions and relationships are caused by an attempt to grow, develop or expand in the face of difficulties that appear to be unsurmountable to one degree or another.

[...] You are not healthy, for example, no matter how robust your physical condition, if your relationships are unhealthy, unsatisfying, frustrating, or hard to achieve. [...]

Obviously this hypothetical situation is a quick example of what I mean, with no mention of the innumerable other beliefs and half-beliefs that would encircle the man’s and the woman’s relationship.

The knees have also loosened, and to a considerable degree—but this is relatively hidden as the relationship between hips and knees is constructively altered. That overall relationship is changing rather quickly, without pause being taken while each adjustment is stabilized. [...]

[...] The legs are capable, for example, now of straightening out far further, but the entire relationship between every portion of the body is being worked upon.

[...] Indeed you can go far further in such relationships. The relationships between multi-dimensional personalities is far more complicated than those you know.

Now your physical relationships may or may not have anything to do with personal affiliations after any given existence within your system. [...] Psychically and subjectively the relationships did not take. [...]

[...] Take for example entity A and entity B. Self 4 personality of entity A may get along quite nicely with B’s self 6. A’s self 2 and B’s self 2 may not get along well at all, so the entities will shift to those personalities which have the greatest rapport, and use them to establish a relationship.

[...] Many such relationships have been established, as indeed I speak with you because we get on so well. [...]

Both of you realize this intuitively. (Long pause.) As personalities however you have worked out your relationship. [...] You have decided not to work out any further relationships together. Often problems with one personality are worked out by relationships with another, different personality.

[...] You also still remember that the father of your child was a woman, and your sister, and so in this life you have found the relationship ambiguous.

[...] The witness said the data contained many intuitive insights, etc., citing especially the material re ambiguous relationships, etc.)

[...] In many cases, now, meaning not in all, such feelings set up quite invisible but definite alienations, or lacks of balance, between the heart and the brain, so that delicate relationships between them are upset. Those relationships affect physical organs, but the medical profession is not used to thinking in terms of relationships that cannot appear under a microscope.

[...] As to Ruburt: the relationships between his bodily parts are being corrected. I am not speaking of stance here, but of those invisible relationships mentioned earlier, for he felt earlier as if he were literally a self divided, so that one part shouted discipline, and one shouted spontaneity. [...]

[...] Such cases can occur, among other reasons, because of relationships between or among bodily parts that in your terms do not have a physical status.

[...] There are for example pressures that do not show, strained relationships between, say, organs that are not apparent medically. [...]

[...] Most, however, have a need for enduring, close relationships. [...] It is an easy enough matter to shout to the skies: “I love my fellow men,” when on the other hand you form no strong, enduring relationship with others. [...]

[...] People who are acquainted with undistorted versions of love in their relationships would find such a concept impossible. [...] They will see in women instead the despised, feared, and yet charged aspects of their own reality, and behave accordingly in their relationships.

[...] Permanent relationships become most difficult to achieve under such conditions, and often love finds little expression, while one of its most natural channels is closed off. [...]

When Ruburt on the couch sensed himself in the chair giving a session, to himself on the couch, this was symbolic of a new kind of relationship between the two of us. At the same time it illustrated part of our relationship as it happens in sessions, in which Ruburt allows a portion of himself to step aside. [...]

[...] The healthy person is one who is balanced at any given time in your terms, as far as his or her relationship with the psyche is concerned; with the world and its relationships.

[...] Ruburt sat physically on the couch, yet at another level he did sit here (in the chair facing the couch), and in our relationship that was a fairly “sophisticated” kind of manipulation, involving the projection of a form outward—the double. [...]

[...] There was a relationship in the past but not a deep one. [...] You would have projected them upon a priest, but this frightened you even more because the male relationship held for you a feeling of terror. You did not, you see, project them upon a person who could immediately answer them in kind, with no strings attached; but a relationship could be easy, open, and immediate. [...]

Because you did not want that kind of relationship. You were only hiding in the thoughts of such a relationship from a relationship with a male that you were afraid to take on. [...]

[...] Now let the other relationship go. [...] This is a relationship mentioned already in class of which you spoke. [...]

[...] The particular relationships in the context do not matter for there are those who have had none in that particular respect. [...]

[...] Those who have been closely bound through emotional ties often prefer to remain in closely tied or loosely tied physical relationships that continue through many lifetimes. New relationships are always encouraged however, for you can have ingrown reincarnational “families.” [...]

REINCARNATIONAL RELATIONSHIPS

[...] We are going to begin our next chapter, to be called: “Reincarnational Relationships.”

Now all of this can be applied to your relationships in your reincarnational existences, and of course it also is highly pertinent to your current daily experience. [...]

Many quite fine nonsexual relationships are denied, because of the connotations placed upon lesbianism or homosexuality. Many heterosexual relationships are also denied to persons labeled as not being heterosexual, by themselves or society. [...]

[...] The psyche and its relationship to sexuality affects your ideas of health and illness, creativity, and all of the ordinary areas of individual life. [...]

[...] The male seems to perform better at mathematical tasks, and so-called logical mental activity, while the female performs better in a social context, in value development and personal relationships. [...]

[...] You cannot teach a boy to be “the strong silent male type,” and then expect him to excel either verbally or in social relationships. [...]

The national economic situation led him to value that relationship still further. He made comparisons, of course, between that relationship and what he knew of other publishers through reading or through direct dealings, such as with Eleanor, for example. [...]

[...] The initial relationship began some time ago, of course, and in a fashion had its own background as far as Ruburt was concerned. [...]

[...] (Long pause.) Ruburt was therefore impressed to the ears with the necessity of getting a book to market, and of the importance of a decent working relationship with an editor, particularly in the uncertainties of even usual free-lancing writing were taken into consideration. [...]

[...] When he and Tam began to reach a relatively workable relationship, therefore, he began to value this more and more. [...]

(“What was our relationship?”)

(“What was your relationship to us, Frank Watts?”)

(“What was my present wife Jane in Denmark, what sex and relationship?”)