“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

You took one small but important area—one that bothered him deeply, and frightened him; narrowed it down, so to speak, pointed out a simple but effective method of operation to be followed. You clearly made it known that you expected him to behave in that one regard in a different manner. [...] It was difficult for him. [...] You checked up on him in the beginning. [...]

You checked up on him in the middle of the night in the beginning, or you would question him in the morning. [...]

[...] Humorously:) Censored material: in a matter of days you effectively helped Ruburt to largely overcome a problem that had bothered him deeply—the bathroom situation.

[...] It gave him a feeling of accomplishment. [...]

[...] You are seeing the image that you have projected upon him, and no one can live up to that image. I realize that when you discuss him that you say—I know he has failings. [...] Some of the qualities that you imagine in him as virtues are not and some of the qualities that you imagine to be failings are not failings. [...] You may have a relationship with that human being, but there is a world of difference between that human being and the imagined image of him to which you react. And it is that image that you see when you look at him and when think of him. [...] But you cannot project that image upon another human being and deny him his own reality. [...]

[...] The two brothers never did hold him responsible, however. [...] In this life, then, the parents do not mean to hold him. They are not subconsciously trying to chain him; they are not subconsciously trying to bind him. [...] He would be much freer if he’d realize that the brothers do not hold him responsible. [...] Your problem is to rid yourself of the image that you have that you project upon him. You will not see him thoroughly until you do so; and in carrying this image with you, you see, you do not see the possibilities in many individuals whom you have already met. [...]

([Pat:]I had a crush on Mr. Finfrock for three years, grades 7 to 9. All the girls had a crush on him. But the other girls weren’t afraid of him. [...] He knew I had a crush on him; he knew that most girls did. [...] And I was too afraid of him to even speak to him.)

You have been afraid that the male would hurt you cruelly—and on purpose, and at the same time, you have endowed him with godlike qualities, and, therefore, demanded more than any man could possibly deliver. [...] When you have settled yourself upon a particular man, you see, it becomes a matter of principle with you that you get him. [...] On the one hand, you want him, on the other hand, as you had to escape from your father, you must also escape from the man and so you are caught in a dilemma. You want him. On the other hand, you must feel that you have independence from him. [...]

[...] It shocked him to know that people of the past were reading the book in his present, and seemed to draw him closer to those original associations that caused him to leave Saratoga.

[...] To some extent the fact that Ruburt’s book is being read in his hometown disconcerts him. [...] This causes some (panic?); there is a feeling that he is back in their control, and that the book in this respect has lain him vulnerable.

The clothing sent by his mother has been somewhat dangerous to him because his feelings, given above, automatically extracted from them the negative feelings of his mother toward him, while blocking out the constructive and loving ones.

Your own attitude toward Frederick Fell, and your remarks to Ruburt, deeply frightened him, for they reinforced the nagging feeling that Fell would not do well by him as his father had not done well by his mother. [...]

The schedule itself, with the beliefs he held, blinded him to the impulses because he would not allow them to emerge. I want him to continue with my book, and when he reaches the portions on point of power and natural hypnosis I will give him instructions so that both of you together spend five minutes a day at each exercise. [...]

You told him once he could not punch a time clock. [...] Working home meant working home, so he shut down impulses that might make him become distracted ,or want to go out when others were working.

[...] Ruburt however, sensing some improvement, wanted instant, complete recovery, and while he handled this better than in the past, tell him, nevertheless at his end he used absolutes again. Tell him to keep that in mind.

For this week have him see how many times he can go out by himself or with you on a walk, but not a walk around the block or to the corner—a walk around the house will do. [...] He is to continue my book, and make his moods known to you, as today, for you helped him.

[...] He needed direction however, and he knew that you would help give it to him. You would help him mold and direct his own strong emotional nature. [...] He would have gone, and has gone, to considerable lengths to allow you to freely begin to express your emotional reality to him.

[...] You taught him how to direct his emotions in his work. Because of the tensions and the challenges, however, and for other reasons having to do with this existence, Ruburt became worried that you would not relate to him in the emotional way that his nature demanded. You asked me how you could relate to him emotionally. [...]

Now you gave him great help in achieving direction, and could not understand why he did not understand this, and that naturally you were pleased with his progress. [...] You have, now, begun to reach him emotionally. [...]

[...] Psycho-Cybernetics programs will help him there, dehypnotizing him. [...]

Your understanding of those issues can help remind him, and your reassurance there is most beneficial. [...] Tell him to let his body alone in the same fashion. [...]

When he finds himself thinking that he cannot walk properly, have him at least recognize the thought, as a thought and belief. That brief recognition alone will give him a moment of reflection. [...]

There has been a breakthrough in those beliefs since the session on muscles; and for him naturally the spring, like the autumn, offers him optimum conditions for improvement in all areas.

Simply as a matter of temperament, this time of year has always made him impatient. [...]

[...] Discuss particularly the early portion of this session with him, and get it through his head that health is not dependent upon perfect performance, creativity, psychically or spiritually. This is extremely important, for this is a strong belief with him now; and he did not see the humor when he heard what I said—it made perfect sense to him. This is an area where you can help him. [...]

—put some weight on him. [...] So to build him up psychologically and not artificially, we remind him of his accomplishments and those areas in which he is doing very well.

Tell him that good health is as accessible to him as air. [...] It is not something given to him when he is good, and withdrawn when he feels he has been bad.

[...] I want him to concentrate upon his accomplishments rather than any failings, and you also. [...] Your loving endeavors toward him have indeed helped, but until very recently you also fell into the same trap.

(As Jane and I worked with the pendulum on Thursday morning, May 8, I thought of two questions for Seth that we’d never asked him before. [...] Why did I get to talking with him in the conference room on campus, then take him to our room, where he proceeded to so upset Jane?

Often my sessions are meant to lead him somewhere, or to stimulate him in certain fashions. [...] Both of you there have concentrated upon impediments, and suddenly, finally, his desire led him to begin typing the book. [...]

[...] Ruburt has more than appreciated your support, and in fact you have indeed inspired him, so your conversation earlier upset him considerably.

Very briefly: Instream is astonished at his own opaqueness in life, and the chances that escaped him. The younger man was, when you met him, afraid himself of schizophrenia, and had a great need to establish his own sanity at the expense of anyone who showed any but the most conventional characteristics.

[...] His mother let it be known that she had no use for him, and he thought if his mother could not love him, then certainly there must be something seriously wrong and unworthy about him.

[...] You must also be patient with him. [...] Understanding this is necessary, but if possible in small ways show him that this is not true; for it can amount to an emotional conviction on his part, and an emotional assurance from you will work far faster than the use of words, though both are necessary.

[...] While he struggled (to succeed), these did not cause him noticeable difficulty, though they operated underground, impeding his progress. [...]

Running away gave him a feeling of security, but he ran in desperation. [...]

[...] In your particular personal relationship Ruburt began to feel that when you looked at him you were comparing him precisely with “that perfect physical self” that seemingly so eluded him, and in the face of that image, any improvement at all began to seem so insignificant as to be meaningless.

He felt he did not know much, but that he knew more in ways important to him than these people did. They were coming to him when he so desperately had wanted to join them, thinking that his idealized, youthful hopes would there find fruition.

[...] When you saw him try to get up he knew you loved him, but the frown was what he saw. [...]

[...] It arouses and stimulates activity without causing him to compare his experience with what is to him an ideal. [...]

He is well aware of your mother’s vitality, and she is well aware subconsciously that her vitality still goads him into a semblance of reaction. [...] In one way she forces him to stay when he would retire, and when her thoughts are not strongly with him he will attempt to escape further.

She will not let him be done here, and he resents it when she rouses him. But he still feels arousement at her thoughts of him as well as her visits.

Now as she more vividly imagines life without him, this stimuli will wane. She is now vividly imagining existence without him. [...]

[...] But your mother’s attention is completely divorced from him at this time, and he has been seeking such an opportunity. The young boy he has been helping no longer needs him.

The very freedom will give me more leeway in making my presence known to him. I am so a part of him during sessions you see (smile), that he cannot observe me or my presence, and this is a source of irritation to him. [...]

[...] It would make no impression upon him had I given it, nor would my appearance have convinced him of anything more than what he would consider his own duplicity. [...]

Let him remind himself that he is fearless in his poetry, and commits himself to it fully, and his ability here has always led him onward to further unfoldments and never into betrayal or deceit. [...]

[...] It is however a fact that I am so a part of him during sessions, that makes him doubt my independent existence. [...]

These two events made him pull in his horns; or rather, his interpretation of them in the light of your relationship. [...] But more, that you almost disapproved of them, that you expected him to be in poor shape. So he would hide any he felt from you often for fear you would crush them, or make him lose whatever small confidence in himself physically he’d gained.

A bicycle has all kinds of connotations for him. It seems unreasonable, watching him, to think that he could even begin to ride one. Watching him you would not think he could get to a dance floor, much less move. [...]

[...] Sound to him does not have the same meaning, though he may dislike the noise. He interprets your remarks therefore as aimed against distractions in general, recognizing your symbolism, and this makes him uneasy because in his own life he has taken the steps he has to cut down distractions.

Now: your attitude and his interpretation of it, to him, clearly jibed. [...] He thought you hated distractions, and for a period of time he felt that you thought him one.

[...] I want him to make out a list of his beliefs about you. I want him to concentrate, now, upon those beliefs that are working for him, to quite consciously build up the sense of his own worth by listing the uses to which he has put his abilities. I want him to then stress, this week, all of his good points, and as much as possible to ignore for that amount of time the negative ones.

Twice a day for 15 minutes at a time, to take the place of psycho-cybernetics, I want him to dwell upon these positive activities and characteristics. [...]

For a week I want you to concentrate on Ruburt’s good points and abilities and accomplishments also when you think of him, until I get further in our book. [...]

[...] It would help however if you simply remind him of this when such occasions arise, for your reminder, given without rancor, would be enough now to let him make a suitable adjustment at any given occasion. You need not force an issue, but remind him of the fact. You fear over-influencing him, but since your influence is considerable in any case, this is a good time to use it.

[...] Ruburt entered him briefly. He was going to comfort him and help him readjust. [...]

Even his desolations, of which I know, lead him to continue a search for understanding, and serve as an impetus to further development. You should try to help him understand them in that light.

This will always protect him in any out of body endeavors, or any other unearthly realities. [...] Now had he been in severe difficulties someone would, have helped him. [...]

Because of your attitude toward Fell, he did not believe you were pleased with him or the ESP book. [...] He expected you to throw a party for him.

[...] Before the session I spoke aloud to Seth, asking him for straight answers to my questions about Jane’s symptoms lately. [...]

[...] He will be afraid of making errors; and fears that you may blame him for them.

The annoying or frightening symptoms began when Ruburt began his search for work, unknown to him consciously. [...]

In trying to show him his realistic condition in the face of such ideas you end up by making him believe also that they are unrealistic, stupid, and that he should not need challenges but only the simple joy of walking across the floor.

The karate image for him is a good one, far more evocative, intuitive, and powerful than his idea say of doing exercises, for it combines, for him, intuitive understanding with physical strength and agility.

[...] The karate image will now help him gain, and helps him correlate his ideas of creativity with a different kind of image than he has had before.

[...] Take a break or rest your hand and get him a beer while I leave him in trance. [...]

Unfortunately several episodes frightened him enough so that he felt again the need for controls. [...] Ruburt’s mother, as mentioned earlier, had often told him that if he kept on as he was going he would lose his mind; and contacts with psychologists, when he feels they are testing him, brings up this old issue.

He also felt it would help him understand to some extent his mother’s actions, and rid him of the hatred he had of her. [...] He did not really believe, intellectually, what I told him, that you form your own reality, and he felt that the symptoms would also help. [...]

This realization then threw him into panic, reinforcing the symptoms. [...] Your father’s condition frightened him because of the mother’s old suggestions of losing the mind, and of course the nursing home environment that represents to him the mother’s environment.

[...] (Long pause.) It will be very easy for him to think of the town as the place where his grandfather lived, and this will bring about the beneficial aspects. It reassures him however to know that the town is still there, that he is free to go to the town and free to leave it. [...]

Now on his part it was precisely that conflict that got him into difficulty, and that brought about the ideas of “work.” [...] The fact that some of your criticisms are justified makes him worry the more, that he is not doing as good a job as he should.

He had healthy enough body concepts that had to be minimized to give him the symptoms, and this was done by reactivating beliefs he had “grown out of” before his symptoms. His mother gave him the idea that he was not graceful, for example, and this idea was reactivated. [...]

While he is adjusting to this, let him take 3 hours a day, including Saturday, in which he is to be creatively free. [...] Each day now, I want him to take his walk, even if it is only around the house. [...]

[...] You must help him realize that he can. [...] He can expect more relaxation periods now, so have him go along with them, and watch his moods then.

[...] I want him to paint steadily at the easel, as mentioned, where he is standing, but with his attention directed elsewhere, and because of the particular refreshment painting gives him—the release from work and pressure.

This is not putting you in the role of a taskmaster, now, but I want you to join with him: “Can you do this? [...] And the idea is, quite simply, to reward him for achievement.

These, therefore, are further comments relating to how he is following the session, and adjustments for him to make.

[...] He is not to let them concern him now. [...]