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(Pause at 9:00.) His intellect however leads him to ask questions that are basically (underlined) intuitive. Seagull does not intellectually reach him—that is, it does not intellectually by itself inspire him, while the phenomena behind it does.
[...] We didn’t ask him to do this. [...] Jane, liking Timothy Foote, told me later that had he stayed for the evening she would have had a session for him; yet we feel there were reasons he didn’t stay, and that things worked out for the best all around.
[...] His characteristics were such that his energy would carry him beyond in all areas, if they carried him at all. [...]
For Timothy individually and personally what happened here, little as it was, is not only important to him, but in terms of continuity ties in with the earlier Lourdes interest, and picks up a thread that has run throughout his life. [...]
[...] As his sons grew out of boyhood he felt that they dwarfed him. He was in a fashion frightened of the ideas of masculinity he grew up with—ideas he felt he did not embody, and he projected those upon his sons so that in a fashion they overawed him, or put him to shame. [...]
(Pause.) Your father’s sentence—the paper-bag reference—was one he actually made in his own mind, in the life that you actually knew him in, and he considered that sons rather than daughters represented his one physical triumph —that is, he believed sons preferable, and they alone compensated for a working man’s life—a life he felt did not befit him. [...]
A daughter, however, would have given him a beneficial relationship, someone with whom he could discuss such feelings, as he did with you in the dream. [...]
[...] I want him, again, to try and sense the natural rhythms within him, of work and play, to continue his notes, to write for now four hours a day, with one hour for poetry, to think of the ideas of his book instead of thinking about the contracts, or of a book as a book, or as work as work; and tune into the library. [...]
[...] He likes a change of pace, alterations in schedule—changing his hours, for example—two or three times a year, works well for him when he allows it.
It served to remind him what he was doing—but more, it allowed him to recognize the situation, which you saw clearly while for a time it was invisible to him.
The affair was important because it showed him that such techniques do work, and it is an excellent example of one of the most important ways you have of helping him. You did not lecture him, for example—simply stated your recognition of behavior that you knew he would not want to continue, and was trying to break.
[...] Your remark therefore instantly alerted him, and in spite of company coming almost immediately, and in spite of his worries generated by the projections, he did immediately use your remark in such a way that he was challenged creatively to change his approach at once.
Ruburt has been refreshed often by your support of him. [...] You can trust him in business matters. [...]
[...] The Robert Browning reference concerns a letter Dick received from someone [a medium?] who told him that he’d been Robert Browning in a previous life.
Seagull also needs friendly assurance, and some help as he learns to go deeper personally into the nature of reality and his own reality, and we can help him there.
(Same funny manner:) I will take him by the hand and lead him here, figuratively speaking of course. I have told him it would be good for him to extend himself in this direction; and he is quite correct. [...]
Seth gave him the information in a dream. [...]
He is forced in one way to reach further into inner reality, for I do not come as immediately to you as Seth as you knew him did. [...]
[...] You asked what it was like to be a personality never formed into physical matter, and I helped him attain some awareness, subjectively, of that condition. [...]
[...] “Not bad, huh?” I told Pete about the prospective evaluation by the people from the infirmary a block away, and mentioned to him that Jane didn’t want to be moved. Pete told me that he’d called Mary Krebs back, or that she had called him, a second time on that first day last week—Friday. Then later in the morning I had to call him back to tell him about Ms. Murdock in social services, and the 16-hours-a-day private nursing proposal in connection with the infirmary. [...]
(In between those calls, Steve Blumenthal called, and I told him that Jane and I had decided not to go through with the tape deal. It was harder for me to tell him than I thought it would be, since I didn’t want to hurt anyone, etc. [...]
Also, as you have been, but even more actively, gently encourage him to express his feelings. He had begun to do this, but your encouragement means much to him along this line, as he still looks to see whether you approve or disapprove. In any given case let him for example know if you disagree with what he is saying, while still encouraging him to say it. [...]
[...] Tell him to think lovingly of his hands, as he has been doing with other areas of his body. [...] Tell him he is handling his affairs well now.
It was extremely important to him that he relate this whole experience to others, and make a good beginning in transmitting the material. [...]
[...] I shall not desert him. [...] I will usually be behind him in these endeavors, and he will be learning with my guidance. [...]
[...] This experience gave him confidence to continue later with his students, you see.
I told him that at the end of the summer he should have 7 students, and so he has.
[...] It is a moment of falseness for him.
[...] This alone showed him that his solution was wrong. The nature of his own individuality makes it impossible for him to accept such a solution. [...] This is a case where his curiosity stands him in good stead.
Now the late affairs with the table have been good training on Ruburt’s part, and given him a release of energies that is acceptable and beneficial. It has also opened up a new line of inquiry for him, and much more will come from this, both on your part and Ruburt’s.
We are trying to make him see the basic difficulty, and give him a solution that is acceptable. [...]
[...] At his best he does lose himself in work, and finds himself; but the work must be to him exciting, highly creative and challenging. Work for work’s sake will not do for him.
[...] There is a need in him for excitement, but because of the maturity of the personality, the excitement now must in some manner be purposeful.
[...] When he is enthusiastically and exuberantly working, the past becomes comparatively insignificant for him as far as harmful elements are concerned.
[...] Ruburt should continue with his exercises, as they are unusually beneficial for him. [...] They allow him to step aside in a regular and disciplined fashion, from the worrisome aspects of his ego.
Their psychic benefits quite outweigh their physical benefits for him in particular. At such times as now, the ego imprisons him, and he does not allow himself inner freedom. [...]
[...] Remind him that spontaneity does also include saying no at times. It is important that you discuss with him your ideas about our joint work, and the nature of my reality. [...]
Tell him immediately about my suggestion, for he has played around with the idea but not initiated it—the schedule is what I am speaking about here.
The New York trip frightened him by its success. He felt he needed the punishment of the program (Alan Burke, TV), and you helped him avoid it. [...]
The physical symptoms therefore frighten him severely in that he does not run. He thinks you do not want him to talk about his past because you are ashamed of it. [...]
[...] The irony of course is carefully chosen— that he choose those symptoms that reminds him of his mother. [...]
The development of Ruburt’s abilities would, therefore, lead him away from comforting structures, while in the meantime he searched for others to sustain him. There is no reason for him to feel stupid or inferior because he chose a challenge for himself that few would take. [...]
Now: distorted as it is, and it is distorted, the science of mind book, coming from outside of himself, in those terms, is valuable, for it reminded him of his own power. [...] His symptoms represent for him the one point of vacuum, comparatively speaking, where the acceleration that has otherwise occurred has not as yet clearly penetrated; and jointly they represent the area in which your combined beliefs have not caught up to your knowledge.
[...] Tension is being relieved, and often this sudden lessening of tension also frightens him. [...]
I am still in the process of trying to reassure him, of course, but in a fashion we are indeed dealing with a kind of biological logic that will stand up in its own light—that will produce its own evidence as you learn to accept the rightness of your bodies (pause), and their abilities, for they are natural healing mechanisms. [...]
[...] There would be more money in the bank and to him is was blood money, rotten or spoiled like fruit overripe and unused. [...] You told him to trust himself constantly but you gave him no example, only words, for you did not trust yourself to that degree.
Beyond this the daily and yearly steady living pattern was frightening to him in personal ways. [...] This meant simply that the conventionally-accepted pattern was not acceptable to him.
[...] At my instigation he began the classes, which led him, though slowly, into other areas of financial development.
As a woman he appreciated your concern for security, and part of him was frightened to think of your giving up the income then, but the greater intuitive part felt that you should do so. [...]
[...] His doctor told him to take it easy, as did his sister-in-law. [...] He told Jane it hadn’t occurred to him to ask me to get it for him; instead he’d called another friend. [...]
[...] You received them in any case, because of your connections with your friend, your affection for him, and the years of association in the old apartment house. [...]
[...] It is a part of him. You bring it out, and if you did not do so a very vital part of him would remain unexpressed. [...]
He fears that you will feel forced to give him more love than you want to. [...]
[...] He will not hurt you if you hurt him to retaliate, but he will escape, close himself off from further hurt, leaving a shell behind, an animated but empty one.
(“I can’t help wondering what I have been offering him lately, other than negative and jealous thoughts, and so forth.”)