“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

[...] However the relationship between her own parents has been destructive. [...] I am speaking now, you understand, of the parents of Philip's wife.

[...] She feels like a child when a parent says, “Now, we must discuss this seriously.” [...]

[...] The idea should be communicated when you are not emotionally upset, and you should not adopt the tone of a parent speaking to a child.

[...] Six months before starting “Unknown” Reality, however, he made a few remarks that I’ve applied ever since to life in our physical reality: “Each person chooses his or her parents, accepting in terms of environment and heredity a bank of characteristics, attitudes, and abilities from which to draw in physical life. There is always a reason, and so each parent will represent to each child an unspeakable symbol, and often the two parents will represent glaring contrasts and different probabilities, so that the child can compare and contrast divergent realities … Your two brothers also chose the family situation. Each parent [both of whom are now deceased] represented opposites to them — but individual ones, and so they saw your parents differently [than you did]. [...]

[...] When that picture was taken, however, your parents were beginning to realize their difficulty. [...] He was secure, but not as secure as you had been, as the division between your parents was beginning to show.

[...] She was 2 years old when her parents were divorced in 1931. With her daughter, the young Marie then returned to her own parents, and the home that the family had rented for a number of years: half of a double dwelling in a poor neighborhood in Saratoga Springs, N.Y. Marie began experiencing the early stages of rheumatoid arthritis, but worked as much as possible.

[...] Ruburt camped with his parent you see at Ensenada, and your parents’ camp. [...]

[...] Perhaps a connection with your parents. [...]

(Of course the emotional involvement and reaction between us and my parents is strong, and would tend to override more specific details of the envelope object itself, once Jane had picked up the idea of my mother. [...]

The idea of being the responsible parent, for example, may lead quite easily to other psychic structures involving responsibility, so that data is accepted on its own value. You may even think that it is wrong to view any situation except through your parental status.

For example, here is a seemingly very innocent core belief: “I am a responsible parent.”

If responsible means, “I must be a parent twenty-four hours a day to the exclusion of everything else,” then you may be in difficulty, for that core belief might prevent you from using other abilities that exist quite apart from your parenthood.

Often parents undermine their children’s confidence by endlessly repeating negatives. [...]

[...] As adults they can form a kind of understanding parent in their own mind, until they learn how to be sympathetic to their own behavior, and until they realize that life itself is an expression—not a repression. [...]

Parents may become particularly aware of that lost sense of joyfulness as they watch their own youngsters in their natural play. [...]

[...] Ruburt (Jane) lost a parent also. [...]

[...] Her parents had divorced when she was two years old, and since her mother did not remarry Jane grew up without a father.² Jane and “Del” met again, briefly, when she became 21 years old in 1950. [...]

2. In Volume 1 of “Unknown” Reality there are several sources of information on Jane’s parents and her early background in general. [...]

Also, you are not at all certain in the dream that you would not prefer him to find outside employment, rather than increase your own work load, if a situation arose in which money was needed for your parents. Because your parents rather than his were involved you felt sadness and concern, because such a move on your part, you felt, would be unfair.

[...] The snow and ice in the first dream represent the fact that your parents were not warm. [...]

[...] You are not but you fear that your family situation, your parent situation, could put you in a like condition.

[...] A normal child at times can slap its parent back, and the parent is obviously immune. The child’s strength is nothing against the parent's. In Ruburt’s case such normal reactions were out of the question.

[...] At some time or another almost every child wishes that his parent or parents were dead, and the parents manage to survive quite well, until they are quite ready to leave your sphere of activity.

[...] Knowing it was not wanted, it paid back its parents. [...] The child was to cause its parents much trouble, but they were strong enough to cope with it.

[...] A firm bonding with the parent ideally implies however that the child will not be abandoned, despite for example parental anger at any given time. [...]

[...] Ideally, infants “bond” with their parents, particularly with the mother but with the father also—and then they “bond” with the general ideas of their society. [...]

Now Ruburt had only one parent available most of the time (long pause), and he did not feel secure in that relationship—a situation chosen ahead of time, now. [...]

[...] Your world view includes your attitudes toward your parents, and toward their parents. It also includes your own attitudes toward your parents’ aspirations, and your views of your brothers and their families. [...]

[...] The child may know that the illness is the result of feelings that the parents would consider quite cowardly, or otherwise involves emotional realities that the parents simply would not understand. Gradually it becomes easier for the child to accept the parents’ assessment of the situation. [...]

Parents and physicians believe, instead, that the child is a victim, ill for no personal reason, but indisposed because of elements attacking him — either the outside environment, or [something] working against him from within. [...] It is easier to go along than to be honest, particularly when honesty would often involve a kind of communication his parents might frown upon, or the expression of emotions that are quite unacceptable.

Your parents, unwittingly of course, can do you much harm. [...] Jane is dissociated to some degree as far as your parents are concerned. [...]

[...] It was impossible, Joseph, for your parents to even be decent when you returned from Florida for the same reason that you and Ruburt were unable to help your Mischa in his time of need. [...]

Dissociation, and I will give you further training along this line, will enable you to bear your parents and to help them. [...]

[...] During last Sunday there was a family gathering at my parents’ home in nearby Sayre, PA. There were twelve people in all: My parents, Jane and I, my brother Loren, his wife and son, and my brother Bill and his wife, and their two daughters and one son. [...]

[...] My parents also have a round mirror-topped coffee table in the living room. [...]

[...] The test object was a ball-point pen drawing of a dog; my four-year-old nephew made it while my brother Bill’s family and Jane and I visited my parents last Sunday. [...]

[...] Seth’s reference to my parents stemmed from an insight I expressed earlier today—that is obvious once thought of: that often as a youth I deplored my parents’ constant arguing and disagreements, thus judging them, but never gave a thought to how they felt on a daily basis while living such lives. [...]

A certain Mr. Butts, I believe, spoke earlier today about his parents, and mentioned the accomplishments that were present but not appreciated. [...]

The important event had to do with some kind of a family nature, and involved one of the two dancers, and their parents, or the parents of whichever girl was involved. [...]

[...] A connection with the past, and with your parents.

[...] There was of course no photo involved, or a house or any connection with my parents, or the past.

Now, a child is very dependent upon a parent. To the child a parent seems like God and, therefore, a child feels guilty, feels afraid that the parent will cast him out, particularly the mother, so the child then feels he will be completely abandoned. [...] He does not realize that what he actually feels is the early fear of the child of the parents’ abandonment. [...]

In many cases, it is the parents of such offspring who suffer more than their children, since it seems as if such families were unjustly saddled with the most unfortunate woes.

[...] It certainly seems to you, or to many of you, that most people would always choose to be born healthy and whole, in an excellent environment, of parents with loving natures and genetic excellence — and in other words to grow up healthy, wealthy, and wise.

(4:12.) Perhaps the greatest variances in human behavior show in mental states, and so parents are apt to feel most crushed and despondent if any of their children prove to be what is generally regarded as mentally deficient. [...]

[...] Superstitiously he felt that in hiding fears about your parents he hid them for you both—shoved them under the psychological rug; but the rug became heavier and heavier.

[...] He was sure that if the circumstances were reversed he would never bleed you to help his parents.

[...] He wanted a car when you did not have one, but was furious that you got one in order to visit your parents—not to escape from them.

[...] In some cases your parents might tell you about events that happened in your own early childhood that you have forgotten. In a strange way, however, these are not your memories, but those of your parents about you. [...]

[...] You accept parents and grandparents, and see them as individuals, while you yourself are also you as an individual, and yet sprung from the same biological seeds.

Your parents have physical representations of their memories in terms of photos and letters — but take your break.