Results 41 to 60 of 843 for stemmed:fear
[...] The fears are being washed away. Before, he was afraid to go down into the fears, represented by the water. The fears dissolving, however, turn into cleansing agents. The part of the self responsible for the fears was the part that thought success a male prerogative, so that the woman had to exert extra discipline. That was also one of the reasons behind Ruburt’s fear of the world’s scorn.
[...] They were dropped into the water, the realm of Ruburt’s fears, by a young man who represented an earlier self who thought success was a male prerogative. The glasses came up cleansed, but together again, and the frames were updated—so that Ruburt’s fears, encountered as he is doing of late, actually allow him to see better and clear his vision. [...]
[...] Some of Ruburt’s exaggerated fears, for example, become minimized automatically as he realizes that he can do some activities that he had given up.
The fears are not hidden in the past, but are obvious in each day, remaining buried only when you choose not to challenge them. [...]
[...] You spent more mental energy setting up barriers to protect it, so that any one instance, say, of interruption or conflict, would immediately arouse the power of the buried fear, and become a symbol for it. [...]
[...] Ruburt feared that the psychic work conflicted with the writer, and detracted from you in your focus as an artist. [...]
[...] Each dance is a victory because he first had to get over the fear of walking to the dance floor, and he looks hopefully to you for your support that he does not look too badly. [...]
[...] Ruburt’s own affiliation and identification with a place has allowed him to burrow in here and thus go hand in hand with your fear, your own fear, of initiative movement.
[...] In your particular circumstances, because of Ruburt’s background, you see the physical manifestation of both of your fears—an incapability of motion.
[...] You feared upsetting Ruburt, and Ruburt would immediately insert desperately positive statements out of a panic to find that you were so disturbed, and this would anger you.
[...] He has therefore never pushed you really to make a change since that time, and has pushed such ideas away from him, although he feels that the longer you stay at Artistic the more unhappy you will be; and there is also in him, and in you, a fear of making a move in physical terms. [...]
All of the fears are based of course on the belief that Ruburt must write to justify his existence. [...]
[...] Then make sure that Ruburt’s fears are vented, that he acknowledges them consciously and does not attempt to intellectualize them away. [...]
You think such fears foolish; Ruburt does, so he tried to talk himself out of them while at the same time pretending that they do not exist. [...]
[...] By this I wanted to show Jane that I wasn’t trying to tell her how to run things—but seemingly this remark instead rearroused Jane’s fears that she couldn’t insist upon action from Eleanor so quickly. [...]
[...] You have not felt free to express your fears to each other, for fear one will upset the other, and so the fears simply grow and then explode.
Ruburt has not expressed those feelings of hope and faith when he has them, for fear they will lead nowhere, or mislead you. [...] He picked up your joint fears like a sponge, and was highly frightened because of his own fear.
[...] Ruburt’s individual and your joint fears, however, prolong his tension, lengthening what should be a transitory period.
[...] He has also reacted to your own doubts and fears about the book, and has picked up often your own ambiguity in that regard. [...]
He is doing very well, but in the case of children, in most but not all, they are able to handle their fears. In a strange manner they are not afraid of their fears. They accept their fears as they accept a chair, or a rock, or a face and then they deal with them. But they are not afraid of their fears in the same manner that you are. [...] It is only when you fear you do not have this vitality that it betrays you, and then it does not betray you, but you betray it. [...]
[...] You would frighten the ghosts away with your own fear. If you had to go through all that they had to go through to contact a beloved daughter, how would you feel if you were met with fear and terror? [...]
([Sue:] “What does somebody in my [infant] son’s situation do with fears?”)
[...] Your fear of freelance work is mainly, but not entirely, caused by your distortive expectation. On the one hand you fear making too much money, while consciously you fear not making enough, for the energy expanded; and I do mean expanded, rather than extended.
Now, Ruburt also has his fear of money. He fears that it will be taken away, and therefore is afraid of having it to begin with. This is a highly ridiculous notion, caused by an infantile interpretation of events in his grandfather’s life, and also by the fear that his mother would steal him blind of anything that he possesses.
I would suggest also, if you will forgive me perhaps, a completely natural fear of incestuous relationship with your mother. Nothing would please her more than money, and you fear that if you made more money than your father, he would feel that you were doing this purposely, to take her away.
[...] The moment that you consciously realized you were an artist, you ceased the attempt to make good money, fearing it would rob you of your ability.
The couple represented old fears; again, interpretations of your father’s beliefs, that young couples become trapped by the fires of desire, and could not escape; that the man could not hold himself apart, but would be devoured by the sentiments of love that would consume him. Those fears of your father’s were given a less frightening, more conventionalized and safer image in John Wayne, who escapes such situations by refusing intimate entanglements, and is “free to roam the range.”
[...] We voiced the idea that three key words seemed to symbolize her physical hassles—fears of scorn, criticism, and flamboyance. As the morning passed and we continued to exchange ideas, we saw of course that all these reflected Jane’s fear or distrust of her own nature—a situation that simply must be remedied. [...]
(Jane asked that Seth comment on her fear about time, a question we’d uncovered recently with the pendulum. [...]
[...] When he fears his own nature, however, then the qualities are not put together as smoothly, so that one can appear contradictory to the other. [...]
(I told Jane she could very well be projecting her own fears upon something that wasn’t that bad at all—that the episode instead served to show what a deep hold old beliefs still had on her. That, as Seth has remarked, the conscious mind must learn to rid itself of fear. [...]
(And so Jane learned that her fears had been for little or nothing. [...] Above all I wanted her to retrain her conscious mind so that such fears would be banished. [...]
[...] Jane immediately feared the worst: that Dr. G was going to want to operate upon, or lance, the knee, or something like that.
When you let yourself go, your “natural” feelings lead you to fear that they will mutilate photographs, or in some way cheapen the book, dragging it down from the ideal. [...] But the main problem is the dilemma caused by the difference between the ideal and a feared, opposing actuality.
He really feared that in actuality he needed gum surgery, and at rock bottom he feared that that was a reality—against which he must fight. [...]
With the book you are in torment as you contemplate the difference between what seems to be the ideal, and its feared actuality. [...]
[...] You feared that in life she was always wounded by photographs because they showed her to be so far less than she wanted herself to be or appear.
[...] What you fear to jeopardize, you will lose. [...] There is an almost animal sense with which men know another’s fear, and they can bargain with you if they scent fear.
[...] Independence is feared by most women, and yet admired. If she knew you as you know yourself, generally speaking, then she would not be so fearful.
[...] They fear your possible advance. They have feared it since your value was first ascertained. [...]
These men realize too well exactly what your value is, and they, two men in particular, fear you. [...]
[...] A desire to communicate, and yet a fear of being swept away. (Pause.) An expansiveness that is genuine but a fear, a fear here for the basic integrity of the self, a fear of being swept away, of not being able to hold the self in as if he fears it could bleed outward and leave you.
[...] Underneath however there is a fear of this outer self. The inner self, in your present, has not yet found nor focused its true ability or direction, and so it fears itself a void and therefore often resents the energy of the outer self.
You sensed energy flowing outward and resented its flow, fearing to lose yourself. [...]
There has been the inner sense of a void to be filled, a fear of identity escaping and running outward—my cup runneth over, and there will be none of me left, you see. [...]
But you also feared the opposite, that she would disrupt a status quo that was highly delicate. [...] You have feared disruption, not realizing that it results in creation, and yes, in birth.
[...] You could however do some excellent in oils if you could rid yourself of the fear that they represent. [...] I believe you will automatically work out of these fears, and find yourself free to choose either medium.
[...] However a touch of this docility operates in that he fears saying no to the nursery school proposition.
[...] First of all you deeply feared that in rearranging her house she was merely playing with surface arrangements, and would not touch the deeper dilemmas of the family.
[...] Spontaneity knows its own direction and the god is not fearful. Control is a result of fear. [...]
There is no reason to fear your inner selves. [...]
Now discipline is knowing how to use spontaneity and only the fear of blessed spontaneity brings sadness, for it impedes progress and puts boulders in your path. [...]
[...] There are no fears from your present life that you cannot escape and conquer. [...] You cannot be hounded from one level of reality to another by a fear that you do not understand. You cannot be threatened in this life by fears from your early childhood in this life or by so-called past existences unless you believe so thoroughly in the nature of fear that you allow yourselves to be conquered by fear. [...]
Psychologically you will find this principle quite sound; symbolically, the fearful attempt to become part of the feared individual, and therefore escape the venom that might be directed outward. [...]
Since Ruburt’s mother had often spoken most vehemently of Ruburt’s birth being a source of disease, that is her arthritis, and pain, subconsciously Ruburt feared on a basic level that his mother wished to punish him for causing her such pain.
[...] At the same time, the wry neck itself inflicted a punishment in place of the imagined and feared greater punishment which Ruburt felt his mother intended, the imagined punishment being a basic and infantile terror of being pulled back into the womb.
The psychological situations that give cause to Ruburt’s mother’s arthritis condition are not present in Ruburt, and once and for all, he does not have to fear such a dilemma. [...]
[...] The immobilization was partially a fear reaction, and yet it had some elements of courage in it, in that he would run in fear no longer, but face issues.
[...] This was at first simply a temporary fear reaction, but it lengthened you see as other developments deepened his fear.
[...] He also, because of this identification, feared he would become crippled and that you would leave him. [...]
[...] He felt cornered, you see, as if you were saying, “I told you so, your deepest fears will be realized.”