1 result for (book:tps5 AND session:878 AND stemmed:yourself)
8/30 (27%)
disapproval
taxes
stomach
approve
springboard
[... 8 paragraphs ...]
(Then at 10:09:) Now: Right now, self-disapproval is involved. You disapprove of yourself because you feel poorly—and because you do not approve of the basic feelings that are behind the difficulty.
[... 2 paragraphs ...]
You do not approve of yourself because you think you should be making money “on your own.” You do not approve of yourself because you think you should be a better artist, or a better writer—but in any case, you do not let yourself appreciate the self that you are.
When you realize this, then you disapprove of yourself for not being wise enough to understand. Behind this is still the idea that self-disapproval is somehow valuable—it will somehow make you better.
Overall, you are too demanding of yourself. It is understandable enough, in your society, that you have certain feelings resulting from society’s insistence that the male in any family must be the main, primary, and clear-cut breadwinner, no matter what the cost. If you understand that those feelings are par for the course, you can accept them—and then go on to see where their source lies. You can understand those feelings, come to terms with them, and they will automatically begin to vanish.
(Pause.) This self-disapproval does not hound you more than other men. It bothers you less than it does most people, for your own understanding has made inroads. Try to be more compassionate toward yourself and your feelings. Do not judge your feelings. The disapproval causes you to bury them. Out in the open, you can handle them easily.
Ideas have changed also since your boyhood, when those ideas were instilled in you. The feelings become exaggerated, and prevent you from accepting the quite valid feelings of your own worth. Approve of yourself as you are, now. Avoid thoughts of regret (as I mentioned to Jane this morning). Doors of all kinds will open when you take away that restraining mental habit.
[... 5 paragraphs ...]
(“It’s bound to,” I snorted. “That means that four times a year, then, I feel lousy because of those damned taxes.... What a dumb position to put yourself into.” Then Seth returned.)
Now: You would be better off saying to yourself: “Everyone has their foibles. Every time the taxes come up I feel poorly, but no one is perfect. To hell with it.” That attitude would be better than disapproving of yourself because of the difficulty. Do you follow me?
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