1 result for (book:tps5 AND heading:"delet session januari 3 1979" AND stemmed:defens)
3/40 (8%)
conscientious
perfectionist
gloried
virtuous
inferior
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No one can completely do that for anyone else, of course, so you have your own struggles with spontaneity. Ruburt’s spontaneous self was by far the most active, and so his defenses against it, as the overly conscientious self, were more obvious than yours.
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In that regard you do not challenge yourselves, and to that extent your work also suffers. Instead of (hypnotic) advisors, try to set up a dialogue, each of you, with the overly conscientious self, reminding it that spontaneity knows its own order—and that its defenses are overdone, with the best of good intent.
[... 1 paragraph ...]
Behind all of this is the feeling that exposure is dangerous, that your true feelings must be hidden, and that the world is unsafe—hence your need for defenses. Read this session also over together, and follow all the suggestions I have given you.
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