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(Within the last few days Jane has lost several teeth, necessitating help from our dentist, Paul O’Neill. I called him at the office this afternoon, but there was no answer. When I checked his home phone, Paul told me he’d taken the day off; he offered to look at Jane here at the house. When he’d done so later in the afternoon, he further offered to do the necessary work here at the house, saving Jane going to his office. We were most surprised. After he’d left, we could see that in actuality Paul’s visit had offered all that Jane could have desired, under the circumstances; we hadn’t asked for any of it, even his preliminary visit to the house to examine Jane this time—although he’d done that on a couple of previous occasions, again without being asked by us.
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Nothing is worth what Ruburt has put himself through, you both say (as I did Saturday night), yet Ruburt has put himself through nothing, in those terms—that is, his condition is not from the result of, again, your psychic activities. Those he has been eminently able to perform, and has done beautifully.
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Briefly, Paul is a good man, quite concerned in his own way about the welfare of his fellows, and trying to help them in a very practical way. (Humorously:) Mending mouths will be his pearly gates to heaven. He thinks he cannot change the world—but he can help the individual patient. He does have strong healing abilities. He is independently minded.
Now: Ruburt knew he had to have dental work. He wanted it done. His beliefs were not of the best at all, as far as physically getting to the office. He did not, however, imagine himself, for example, falling, except I believe in one or two very brief thoughts. Had you told him “Never mind, when the time comes you will make it,” that would have been adequate enough. You did say, several times, “You’ll be able to make it all right”—and that was also adequate and a good response.
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What you have then was Ruburt’s desire to have his teeth fixed, when it was obvious that he must, and his fear that he could not perform adequately at this time. That data existed in Framework 2. There, computations involving yourselves, Ruburt’s conditions, the circumstances, and your dentist, all went on with great rapidity. You know the solution.
Paul’s activities over the weekend, yours, the time of your call, the fact that he did have the time today, when ordinarily he would not—all of these issues were juggled in Framework 2, to give you, now, the best possible solution, given the conditions in Framework 1, with the desires and beliefs involved.
(After I received no answer at Paul’s office, I thought of waiting to call him at home after supper tonight, with Jane’s agreement. Five minutes later, however, I decided to try him at home after all. Jane said she thought he took Mondays off, whereas I’d thought he took a midweek day off.)
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The fear that the eye difficulty might be a serious disease caused further tension, of course. The knees are definitely continuing to release. The hands, fingers, arms and neck areas also. You both believed for years—and many years —that if you were gifted you had to do all you could to protect yourselves from others. Ruburt believed that people hated you if you were different. Those beliefs existed, and Ruburt felt that he was different, from the time he was a young child.
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Your remark about the dishes was most creative, despite the way the remark was put: “Soon you will be able to stand and do the dishes, and just enjoy the task.” That would have been excellent. To expect Ruburt to do that the next moment, however, brought up instant contradictions. You did remind him of the joy he used to take in that activity, however, and in an important way a conflict was resolved: he enjoys the dishes now, and he can say “Before I know it, I can enjoy it standing up also.”
Paul reacted to Ruburt’s and your affection for him. That already existed in both frameworks. He rather surprised himself, however, with his suggestion.
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