“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

That session is extremely valuable. So on your list, write “Do not think in terms of absolutes.” As far as Ruburt’s condition has been concerned, you both have habitually thought so in terms of black and white that you added a narrow, limited area in which improvements might begin, but could only go so far.

Again, his condition does represent the one area where both of you have felt cowed, often hopeless, and as if your abilities worked in all directions but that one. The important point is, that that area was the one area in which you did not use those abilities—nor should either of you spend time bemoaning what has happened, or dwelling upon “what people can do to themselves.” This is not only waste of time, but it adversely affects your creativity, and that frame of mind will never generate solutions, but only further difficulties in any area (emphatically).

This happens in any relationship. You have said, I believe, something to the effect that the house or the money meant little in the light of. Ruburt’s condition: meaningless chatter in a way, since if you did not have the money or the house, that would not mean that Ruburt was necessarily in excellent physical condition.

The freedom that the house and the money represent is extremely important to both of you. Ruburt did not put himself in poor physical condition to get those things. His physical symptoms were the result of methods or habits of dealing with himself and the world, and of attitudes that both of you shared for the greater part of your lives.

The body can find no firm stance in such a situation, for the artificial conditions blot out the natural realities of any given day. It is the duty and challenge of the conscious mind to ascertain cultural reality—but cultural reality cannot supersede natural reality. Or you run into difficulty.

As Ruburt’s body becomes more responsive, it means also that he is becoming more responsive not just physically but in all areas. He thinks he feels uncomfortable with other people on such occasions because he is physically uncomfortable, sitting for long periods, or because he feels in an inferior physical condition. Instead, of course, he felt in such a position before the symptoms showed—as each of you felt, and were convinced in black-and-white fashion, that creative people were misunderstood, held in inferior position in the world, and were generally considered oddballs.

I am not saying that you should refuse guests. When Ruburt is ready, and when you are ready to begin to embark upon relationships with others of any import, his condition will show it. We are not speaking simply of guests, but of a willingness on your part to begin relationships—in line with your work, and of direct contacts, planned in advance, of personal contact.