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Now, give us a moment.... Ruburt basically believed that if he did his own thing—writing—money would come to him. For a while, as given much earlier, he was worried about money, believing poverty the mark of the artist. The latter belief fell, however, and in three years the financial picture has changed vastly for the better.
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You felt you must make money, and so a conflict developed. Ruburt’s beliefs on his own, concerning his writing and money, carried the ball despite his worrying tendencies. You believed that his best work would bring money too, and so you had no conflicting beliefs about money in that regard.
Ruburt is satisfied with the financial pace, knowing it is accelerating on its own. This is an example however of the way in which your private and joint beliefs operate in a given area. Ruburt does not think in terms of details. He knows the books will bring added financial success, and that ad campaigns, etc., will come. This does not mean he is not annoyed on occasion, for he is, but overall he is in that regard certain.
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There is more here but it is not pertinent to tonight’s discussion. In that area however Ruburt’s positive beliefs and your supportive ones acquiesced in the area where you each were free. Now you feel that your own best writing efforts will bring you some appreciation and financial success, while you still doubt your best painting will.
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Sketching for Ruburt’s book, in line with your present beliefs, is “safe.” This comes under a different category for you: helping Ruburt, and can be used also to release your sketching abilities. Those abilities have always been allowed greater freedom and spontaneity because they did not threaten you in terms of selling.
Now: in his beliefs Ruburt wrote recently that he had a good complexion, and always had one. He realized that this was often reinforced by you in your comments, and in this very simple instance you see the result of a joint belief freely carried through without conflicts. We will call it a simple declaratory belief. Like a simple sentence unmodified by qualifiers.
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(10:00.) Give us a moment.... Some long time ago your own belief that good work could not be financially relied upon put up enough of a barrier so that Ruburt became frightened about his own work (a fact I have long suspected, and recently discussed with Jane), and set up a physical situation that would force him to stay home, literally, work, and prevent him from trying any longer those other avenues that you were still adopting. (Jobs, etc.)
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Now: beginning my book as I suggested in the last session, Ruburt has begun to encounter, recognize and timidly begun to challenge body beliefs just in the last few days. This will help break the connection in conditioning, and is a first step, and a necessary one. He is so used to automatically negative suggestions that to say nothing to himself leaves a vacuum. But here he can say now instead: “It is not necessarily so. Perhaps I can move easier. I’ll try it,” which allows a breathing space and a slight weakening of previous conditioning, in which he is no longer taking negative beliefs as fact, but looking at them as beliefs.
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Now: because of your background you also feel that there is something slightly shameful about going abroad in the day, when a man should be taken up with dutiful work. Your mother was ashamed of your father’s being home, for example. You used to comment to Ruburt about all the people on the streets in working hours. He picked that idea up from you. Your own list of beliefs should be quite illuminating as you continue it. But the real realizations will come as the exercises and their personal comprehension merge with what is written in my book.
The very fact that you work together at the book brings your private and joint beliefs together for examination. Ruburt’s improvements will begin anew as he now feels safe within his environment; but also as he feels safe to improve that environment.
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In this period just passed Ruburt encountered your family in a crisis situation, opened to influences previously denied in terms of some brief traveling and dining out and spending money, while considering the very large expenditure for the house, and at the same time not working regularly or having my sessions.
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Again, your lovemaking together is vital. Ruburt was correct in some assessments he made concerning your own energy. In a certain way your mother’s death releases it.
Now I realize that you see Ruburt limping about quite as clearly as you see his good complexion. He is the one who must challenge his body beliefs, but whenever you notice any improvement mention it, for you are also dealing with a situation in which you become hypnotized by effects.
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The money in the bank is real. It is the result of beliefs. Ruburt did not concentrate upon the problem of, say, possible poverty. Ruburt’s flexibility and health is as real in the inner world as that money is. More than that, it is ready to manifest physically, but you must not concentrate upon its “seeming lack.”
Ruburt gets over here quicker in the morning. Both of you believe it. Now: take any one, any one simple area, like rising from a chair, and using the point of power see Ruburt performing better in that area, whatever you choose. Do nothing else. Do not tell yourself, “He will do better,” but see it being done in the point of power. Then forget about it.
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You have freedom to concentrate your attention. Choose simply to change that concentration away from Ruburt’s symptoms, each of you, whenever you find yourself concentrating upon them. You do not have to deny the effects that you observe. Simply tell yourself to concentrate upon something else.
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Let Ruburt return to the definite 3-or-4-hour writing period, involving what he understands of Sumari time, interspersed with what you are doing to change the environment in the apartments—a good mixture of the mental and the physical. Now good evening.
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