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Now, give us a moment.... Ruburt basically believed that if he did his own thing—writing—money would come to him. For a while, as given much earlier, he was worried about money, believing poverty the mark of the artist. The latter belief fell, however, and in three years the financial picture has changed vastly for the better.
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You felt you must make money, and so a conflict developed. Ruburt’s beliefs on his own, concerning his writing and money, carried the ball despite his worrying tendencies. You believed that his best work would bring money too, and so you had no conflicting beliefs about money in that regard.
[... 6 paragraphs ...]
Now: in his beliefs Ruburt wrote recently that he had a good complexion, and always had one. He realized that this was often reinforced by you in your comments, and in this very simple instance you see the result of a joint belief freely carried through without conflicts. We will call it a simple declaratory belief. Like a simple sentence unmodified by qualifiers.
[... 2 paragraphs ...]
(10:00.) Give us a moment.... Some long time ago your own belief that good work could not be financially relied upon put up enough of a barrier so that Ruburt became frightened about his own work (a fact I have long suspected, and recently discussed with Jane), and set up a physical situation that would force him to stay home, literally, work, and prevent him from trying any longer those other avenues that you were still adopting. (Jobs, etc.)
The symptoms also cut down distractions to insure that he did work while at home. He was trying to show you that it could be done. Unfortunately in some respects certainly he went overboard, so that the symptoms served to cut out anything he felt might be threatening to his work and to your situation.
A child might result in your working out full time, in which case you would never, he felt, develop as an artist. Social contacts were kept at a minimum. The isolation he felt you needed would be given you. At the same time his own abilities would be concentrated upon also. It was a do-or-die effort on his part. Once embarked, there was to be no turning back, until finally his own work and your reactions began to hint of difficulties, and his own body reflected them. He tried to keep you from family connections and complications for what he thought was your own good.
[... 2 paragraphs ...]
The funeral (of my mother on November 19, 1973), family considerations, thoughts of buying a house, brought up difficulties. These were apparent also because at the same time he had begun going out more, giving in some to previously denied impulses, and putting himself in positions that he had not before. He was, in a small period of time, encountering his beliefs in reality as he knows it, therefore.
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The spending splurge, and changes here, are important. Particularly important was your discussion with him the other evening. You recall the one I mean. (About Jane and me being essentially alone in that world now after my mother’s death, etc.) In the inner order of events he is walking nearly normally, but the challenge to beliefs must take place on that outer level, and this is now occurring. It is important because of his literal-mindedness.
There is a correlation between his literal-mindedness and your attention to detail, and if you look at it that way it will make more sense to you. Your work together with my book will be of great private and joint benefit; and continue with your lists on beliefs. Take your break.
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The very fact that you work together at the book brings your private and joint beliefs together for examination. Ruburt’s improvements will begin anew as he now feels safe within his environment; but also as he feels safe to improve that environment.
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This brought forth a turmoil in beliefs, and a creative one that is only now being used and assimilated. His idea of challenging body beliefs is important. Today’s mixture of walking, stimulation and facing the public (while shopping) is highly advantageous, but he should compare his condition not with others but with his reality.
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Now I realize that you see Ruburt limping about quite as clearly as you see his good complexion. He is the one who must challenge his body beliefs, but whenever you notice any improvement mention it, for you are also dealing with a situation in which you become hypnotized by effects.
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