1 result for (book:tps2 AND heading:"delet session septemb 3 1973" AND stemmed:he)
27/45 (60%)
Nebene
characteristics
troublesome
restrictive
habitual
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[...] He learned to turn them off. [...] It is important that when he recognizes such patterns now, as he is beginning to, that he communicate them to you (as Jane did after supper tonight), until he gets used to handling them alone. He trusts your common sense, and such a measure will insure that the habitual mood reactions are cut short.
[...] When he begins to rouse, he comes of course into direct confrontation with impulses before hidden. He knows he wants to move furniture, to change the environment. [...]
[...] For example, while he was convinced—and he was—that he looked more than his age, and was unattractive, then the time element made him push even harder for success. He saw himself older, and in the light of that his success was not enough.
He knew he had access to an amazing amount of energy, but pretended that he did not so that all the energy available would go into the effort to use his abilities properly. [...]
In that stage then, when he tackles a room for example, the fear that he will not be able to work, or want to, becomes conscious, with guilty feelings. [...] Often a simple discussion with you of any such episode will clear the issue for him, where before in his secrecy he would hide it even from himself.
We will be working toward a simple walk each day regardless of the distance, but as he becomes freer he himself will feel the impulse, as already he feels the impulse to change the rooms.
He is not feeling all of those impulses at once, but handling so much at a time consciously. Theoretically, he should feel free to work whenever he feels like it, for his own strong creativity will see that it is used.
While he was hiding much of this was relatively impossible. [...] As mentioned, coming over here (Apartment 5) meant that he was finally willing to confront his feelings about your relationship. The other apartment now, then, represents isolation, where when he was running away it represented independence.
When he gains confidence this will not be necessary and the hours should be used as a framework. He should discuss his feelings clearly with you about those hours, and if he finds himself scrambling to meet them and so forth.
[...] This afternoon, and at various times, he has been able to isolate certain series of thoughts and feelings, and identify them as restrictive. Before he simply acquiesced to then, and was not able to perceive them as troublesome habitual patterns. [...]