“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

Each of you trusted the same kind of characteristics in the other, to keep you where you thought you should be. In this life Ruburt saw those same characteristics in Father Ryan, where repression was used to keep him in the church. These characteristics were necessary in the situation as given, until Ruburt learned the nature of the self, and could begin to trust it. With the belief that he can trust the self, the creative self, the other characteristics become unnecessary, for you cannot force creativity.

Your own behavior with him has been excellent, and highly reinforcing. The love-making in particular must be encouraged, and it arouses your own spontaneity as well as his. Several advances have been made, all with your help. His inner self-image is changing. The morning mood is not nearly as glum. He has even smiled, and some physical improvements have been noticed.

Practically, at this stage of the game some system of time is a good policy, even while within it full freedom of thought, and day-dreaming, must be allowed. This should not be thought of as a bargaining with the self, or as an obsession, but instead as a practical method of dealing with a present set of conditions. When the time is come, there will be no conflicts with physical activity, for example, and/or work, for he will have put his priority where he wants it freely, consciously deciding to do so.