“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

There is also some confusion having to do with your own idea of what male and female is and what is required of each. In your rebellion you see yourself as the male. Spontaneity and freedom also suggest itself to you as male rather than female. On the other hand, you feel yourself womanly. The male image of a rebeller, however, comes to a halt in your lovemaking encounters.

Have the lights on in your lovemaking encounters.

Use your own initiative for variations—think in terms of play—of a playful encounter, rather than serious encounter. Remember that the body, left alone, will find its own joy and pleasure. So concentrate upon what the body feels.

This means using your mind and applying the mind to the body—not blocking out the mind. Any love encounter is truly unique and different from any other and this you must understand. A love encounter is a way of expressing your individuality. In expressing it, you do not lose it—you are not less a rebel. In expressing it you become more what you are—you jump the bridge of communication beyond words, and this can be a simple thing involving merely the touch of hand on hand or thigh on thigh.

So do not label the experience you think you should have. Let your body and your mind become aware of what your body feels in these encounters.