“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

Loving encouragement will work. Because of the material given the other evening, and Ruburt’s own background, this is what happened in the past: he would manage to show some improvement as your attitude became more loving. He was still looking for signs that you meant the change—do you follow me?

When you showed impatience with his progress it was sometimes a natural impatience, and sometimes Nebene’s dissatisfaction with a student who should, with those abilities, do better. Ruburt would indeed perceive withering looks on such occasions. Neither of you properly understood your own reactions. But Ruburt would immediately panic.

In his own way of course he is also a perfectionist, and felt himself falling far short. Do not stress so much that he must go out, as much as things you go out for, to your bars, shopping or whatever.

Lighting his own cigarette in public was the one wild gesture of independence he allowed himself because you made such a point of lighting it for him. He was saying “In big things where I need help you often refuse to help, and your help is a gesture as when you light my cigarette, when I can do that myself.” So if Nebene is a stickler for details and carries grudges, so did our friend.

Now you may take a break. And do not let me keep you too long.

And some day you will not need me to interpret your feelings to each other. You will do it quite directly, and our sessions will be on other matters.