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[... 18 paragraphs ...]
This is also of additional benefit to you, as you see that Ruburt responds to you and is not beyond your reach. Do you follow me?
[... 11 paragraphs ...]
Now a small note: Your poor, misguided, unjolly bachelor friend downstairs did you a service many times, in complementing your wife when you were unable to do so, in giving her a sense or a glimmer of female pride or appreciation when you were unable to communicate, and you knew this.
[... 10 paragraphs ...]
Now Ruburt’s weight is a part of the whole picture. Added to this are certain attitudes of your own, that is attitudes both of you have. Both of you have the same attitude, which means that they are magnified, doing double duty.
[... 3 paragraphs ...]
There is little fun connected with it. Now you do vary in your attitudes, but only in degree. You will be more adventurous or inventive perhaps at this time, but the strict emotional attitude remains the same. The kitchen is the least important part of your house. These attitudes, then, do not help. To some extent Ruburt is in a quandary, for the idea of gaining weight seems to contradict other deeply-buried feelings.
These feelings have much to do with the conflicts Ruburt feels with your friends Claire and Bob, for they go to the opposite extreme, where life revolves around nourishment. Give us time. You both often criticize those who are overweight, emphasizing in your minds and feelings the lack of control this implies to you, the overindulgence. This brings up those ideas of discipline, of giving into feeling, by implication.
Ruburt considers it in very poor taste (humorously) to ‘oh’ and ‘ah’ over food. Both of you enjoy a sense of moral superiority in the presence of your brothers’ families, that they eat so heartily while you refrain. Both of you now prove that you are not sunken in materialism by being thin. Ruburt simply carries this further than you do, rigidly holding his ground despite all entreaties to the contrary.
(“Will knowing all of this do him any good?”)
[... 6 paragraphs ...]
He does have, as you do, buried sensuous tastes that can be cultivated: his buried far more than yours. Your combined emotional feelings toward food have been exaggerated by him. He thinks you disapprove for example of the very foods you tell him to eat, the sugars and starches. You condemn them except when mentioning them to him.
Do you want a break?
[... 6 paragraphs ...]
