“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

Now your remark, not verbatim, “Come on, Hon, get with it,” worked to some extent, for it roused his desire to give you a good day, not to spoil it, and his spirits rose to some degree. But you did not encourage him to express the feelings. Both of you dealt with the matter in the old way, to some extent.

Now your relationship, as I told you, is a creative springboard for you both. The Sumari development would not have occurred until your relationship had a revival, and further creative developments have already been sparked for the same reason.

A day like today is extremely significant to both of you, for it builds up inner confidence, particularly on Ruburt’s part. Even your (underlined) behavior yesterday, while not what it might have been, was supportive enough to keep the situation from getting out of hand, and the memory of your night’s dancing was also supportive, so that you have more supportive elements to cushion various situations.

You were partially grateful for it, and partially angry, but at yourself. Now that Ruburt is coming to you more fully again, and your neighbor’s compliments and flirtations are no longer needed, you are ready to jump on him, both of you.

I wanted to give you insight on that, however. Now take a break. Today can be considered a touchstone. Both of you did things right.

Now Ruburt’s weight is a part of the whole picture. Added to this are certain attitudes of your own, that is attitudes both of you have. Both of you have the same attitude, which means that they are magnified, doing double duty.

Whenever the word is used it has a negative connotation to you both. To put on weight is not desirable. Your diet has been geared with that in mind. Granted Ruburt exaggerated where you made adjustments, but both of your emotional attitudes are the same at that level.

Eating is more a gluttonous endeavor to you in that regard. The preparation of food is a waste of time. It takes time away from more valuable things, both in its preparation and cleanup later. It is too sensuous. Those are your attitudes emotionally. Food must be kept as simple as possible, as unobtrusive.

These feelings have much to do with the conflicts Ruburt feels with your friends Claire and Bob, for they go to the opposite extreme, where life revolves around nourishment. Give us time. You both often criticize those who are overweight, emphasizing in your minds and feelings the lack of control this implies to you, the overindulgence. This brings up those ideas of discipline, of giving into feeling, by implication.

Ruburt considers it in very poor taste (humorously) to ‘oh’ and ‘ah’ over food. Both of you enjoy a sense of moral superiority in the presence of your brothers’ families, that they eat so heartily while you refrain. Both of you now prove that you are not sunken in materialism by being thin. Ruburt simply carries this further than you do, rigidly holding his ground despite all entreaties to the contrary.

He did not, in the past now, feel nourished. When your intimate situation improves, so will his eating habits. But oddly enough the reverse also applies—when his eating habits improve so will your intimate lives. Your tempting him to eat, for example, and underline tempting, has strong sexual connotations to which he will respond, both sexually and through eating more.

Both of you also have emotional ideas, now being tempered I hope, emotional feelings, that to deny sex or minimize it is to improve your creative capacity. Instead you squeeze yourselves dry.

Philosophically and practically there are many ramifications on this subject that I hope to cover, but what I have said for now applies. The word tempt is important, for it implies on you part a willingness to have him taste and share with you both through food and sexual enjoyment. Telling him to eat without understanding your own emotional attitude is useless, for he picks up and exaggerates the Puritan-like feelings toward food. Your preparing food for him now and then as a counterpoint can help.