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Ruburt is learning much to his advantage in the present circumstances regarding your own parents. The affair allows him to make comparisons, to compare and evaluate present events with past ones. To discharge, and then examine, emotional responses that have lain latent.
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Ruburt should not brush aside any emotional connections then, but understand what is happening. For this process is releasing him already, and operates like a catharsis. His development allows this to happen. The situation, you see, somewhat earlier, could have had far different connotations, and he could not have handled them. This is very important, the above.
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Even the welfare considerations enter in here. He sat on the family porch Sunday to escape the house as he did as a child in Saratoga. In his subconscious your father and mother become two aspects both representing his own mother. The father, nearly crippled, to be cared for, and therefore frightening. Yet he spontaneously kissed the father, and tried to give him strength.
The father, your father, represents to him, Ruburt, the helpless portions of his own mother, directed so to speak where he can see them. Your mother represents to him the destructive, unreasoning energies of his own mother, and in the pull and conflict between your mother and father, he sees the tortured connections of his mother’s soul.
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In facing the situation in your parent’s house, he faces and conquers the situation once existing in his mother’s house. There is some resistance, but he now recognizes it as such, and is able to overcome it. The situation does not gobble him up. He was always afraid that it would.
The parents are not all powerful. They now need support. They are people, they are not magic monsters out to devour him.
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Ruburt can see this then objectively. Your mother is not out to kill him personally. His mother was not out to kill him personally. He was simply there.
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These realizations free him. The realizations themselves release him. Now give us a moment.
They, your parents, are done with each other, your mother being more honest than your father in this respect. (Long pause.) Her rage, you must understand, is the other face of life, vitality and love, and she will not give up her demands. She will try to shove him out, and he will cower before her strength. He always resented her vitality.
Her heavily applied, overly feminine characteristics, were donned by her to hold him in the early years. She had more strength than he. She pretended to be dominated by him, but both of them knew. (Pause.) He would have preferred daughters. She gave him sons hoping to pacify him, but he always felt that the sons challenged his vitality and position.
He gave up years ago. Her energy made him keep up appearances. Her vitality fed him, but it could not rouse him. Now he in his helplessness pays her back, and she rages against him. The sons left early, but he refuses to leave. She feels betrayed by the sons who left, and the father who stayed.
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Your mother needs action, physical vigorous action. Your kind of life would drive her mad. She could destroy your other brother. For a while she will stay at home. (Pause.) Your father’s ghost or shell waits to be reunited with the other portions of itself. In the meantime it will roam through the old house, seeking what is lost, and finding recreated scenes that bring him peace.
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Ruburt is developing his abilities, and I helped him on that occasion. He overintellectualizes when he works the table alone. Let him get his results, and do his critical work afterwards. His abilities are being released because energy is now being released.
The suggestions he has written down are also taking effect. Your intimate life and his biological periods will also improve now, but he must continue what he has been doing in connection with your parents. A portion of him is quite deliberately using that situation—that is, as a catharsis, so the honest emotional attitude must be maintained.
He is slightly worried about the social-worker appointment. Let him acknowledge it freely, you see. Then any old fears become present, and are subject to solutions that the adult finds.
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