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Ruburt is learning much to his advantage in the present circumstances regarding your own parents. The affair allows him to make comparisons, to compare and evaluate present events with past ones. To discharge, and then examine, emotional responses that have lain latent.

In a new crisis situation, in facing a present crisis squarely and dealing with it in adult terms, he may indeed free himself largely; for the present situation through association brings up highly charged emotional energies that have been stopped up and causing difficulty.

It is highly necessary then that his present course be maintained, expressing his emotions honestly to himself and to you; and examining them, if he prefers, afterward, then taking with you whatever steps are necessary in your family situation.

This is the adult’s chance to understand and emotionally exorcise parental ghosts from the child’s past. They will be viewed in the light of the present, brought up because of your family’s dilemma, to the light of day.

Ruburt should not brush aside any emotional connections then, but understand what is happening. For this process is releasing him already, and operates like a catharsis. His development allows this to happen. The situation, you see, somewhat earlier, could have had far different connotations, and he could not have handled them. This is very important, the above.

I will try this evening to help you on both of these levels. On Ruburt’s part he is finding himself able to handle a parental situation with you, along with you, even though the crisis evokes long repressed, highly charged emotions from his own past.

Your mother tried to change you into the image of the man she had known. You were to take his place, and she enjoyed it when you supported the household. Every bill you paid, or small item you purchased, had erotic connotations, and on two levels: on your part subconsciously, because you felt her strong emotional pull, though it terrified you; and on her part because you took the place of the father.

The suggestions he has written down are also taking effect. Your intimate life and his biological periods will also improve now, but he must continue what he has been doing in connection with your parents. A portion of him is quite deliberately using that situation—that is, as a catharsis, so the honest emotional attitude must be maintained.