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Now. We have fear and rage on the part of the girl, for despite the children she is yet a girl, and a very nice one. However the relationship between her own parents has been destructive. The father has wanted domination, and to some extent has forced his wife into a position of dominance which she strongly resents. Because of this she lashes out at her husband. I am speaking now, you understand, of the parents of Philip's wife.

Your anger is interpreted simply as violence, and she fears it. Ideas expressed at such occasions will be strenuously fought by her. You must make an emotional bridge, for she will not understand an intellectual one. But the emotional bridge must not be of a violent nature.

She fears, for one thing, that you could run the house more efficiently than she can, and basically that you do not need her. She is not certain of her own merit, and achieves her self-approval through your auspices.

One of the children is suffering to some extent psychologically because of the dilemma, and you are too much the autocrat with this child, a female.

If you cannot communicate important ideas, then you must communicate trivial ones. The big conversation, in which you attempt to communicate your ideas, only frightens her. The idea should be communicated when you are not emotionally upset, and you should not adopt the tone of a parent speaking to a child.

And if you treat her as a desirable woman, she will become one. You are treating her as a wife and mother, primarily. With this particular individual this is not adequate. She wants to be regarded as a desirable woman who happens to be your wife and a mother.

And if you cannot do this honestly, then your difficulties are more serious than you realize. The effort will be more than worth your while, but the effort must be an honest one, or she will sense the hypocrisy.