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Also she loves Philip, and would not consciously want to dominate him if she could. He senses this subconscious need of hers however to hold him, and resents it vigorously. She attempts to dominate him in her own way, and on a subconscious basis, and it is indeed by appealing to him through helplessness. At the same time she does not want him to give in to her.

She fears, for one thing, that you could run the house more efficiently than she can, and basically that you do not need her. She is not certain of her own merit, and achieves her self-approval through your auspices.

She will be much more content and pliable to reason if you can manage, regardless of your intellectual tendencies, to approach her in that light. She needs drama, within the framework of the home, and she wants this from you. It will take some effort on your part, but if she feels that you spend time with her simply because you want to be with her, this will go a long way in solving your difficulties.

If your relationship is as important to you as I believe it is, then you will make the effort. The simple fact is that you do need her, and you have not communicated this. Obviously there are reasons for her behavior, and changes also that she can and should make, but I am speaking to you and not to her.