“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

Now. I did not resume the session for obvious reasons... Ruburt is not particularly pleased with what he knows I am about to say, but I am not held by the same social rules that hold him in this particular manner, and I know Philip (Seth’s entity name for John Bradley) perhaps better than he does.

Your anger is interpreted simply as violence, and she fears it. Ideas expressed at such occasions will be strenuously fought by her. You must make an emotional bridge, for she will not understand an intellectual one. But the emotional bridge must not be of a violent nature.

She is not a partner and you are indeed in difficulties. She can become a partner however, but anger will only minimize her importance in her own eyes, and therefore in yours.

However, in the main you are doing two things wrong. You are treating her primarily as a woman rather than an individual person, but you are not treating her as a desirable woman rather than an individual person.

If you treat her as a desirable woman, you will find a difference in your home atmosphere. If you cannot do this, then you must treat her primarily as an individual person. But if you treat her as a woman primarily, it must be as a desirable woman, or she will find no content as a woman or as an individual.

She will be much more content and pliable to reason if you can manage, regardless of your intellectual tendencies, to approach her in that light. She needs drama, within the framework of the home, and she wants this from you. It will take some effort on your part, but if she feels that you spend time with her simply because you want to be with her, this will go a long way in solving your difficulties.

And if you cannot do this honestly, then your difficulties are more serious than you realize. The effort will be more than worth your while, but the effort must be an honest one, or she will sense the hypocrisy.

I realize that you feel as if you are in a vicious circle. In many cases however you do not ask, but have a tendency to command her. Not in words so much as in attitude. She does not feel truly desirable. You can do much to change this.

If your relationship is as important to you as I believe it is, then you will make the effort. The simple fact is that you do need her, and you have not communicated this. Obviously there are reasons for her behavior, and changes also that she can and should make, but I am speaking to you and not to her.

The adjustments necessary are not all on your part, but your adjustments can initiate hers. These remarks, Joseph, do not have to go in the record.

Now. Several hours devoted on occasion to intimate relationships of sexual nature would be advantageous, simply because of the implied suggestion that you were not only willing but anxious to devote yourself to her. The energy that you have could be focused momentarily into a physical acknowledgment that would have strong psychic overtones for both of you. The physical relationship then would indeed open psychic channels, where understanding becomes intuitional. This would be to both of your benefits, and she would understand what you so poorly put into words.

You are concerned, and have made efforts, but you are better equipped simply because of your personality structure, to make these efforts. She is at this point like a child in the woods, but the potentialities are there for an excellent relationship.