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What he does not understand is the rage that she is containing. There is considerable strength to it, and he should recognize this. She does not want to dominate him through feminine wiles, and yet subconsciously she feels driven to do so.

She fears, for one thing, that you could run the house more efficiently than she can, and basically that you do not need her. She is not certain of her own merit, and achieves her self-approval through your auspices.

However, in the main you are doing two things wrong. You are treating her primarily as a woman rather than an individual person, but you are not treating her as a desirable woman rather than an individual person.

If you treat her as a desirable woman, you will find a difference in your home atmosphere. If you cannot do this, then you must treat her primarily as an individual person. But if you treat her as a woman primarily, it must be as a desirable woman, or she will find no content as a woman or as an individual.

And if you cannot do this honestly, then your difficulties are more serious than you realize. The effort will be more than worth your while, but the effort must be an honest one, or she will sense the hypocrisy.

Do you have any questions, Philip?

I realize that you feel as if you are in a vicious circle. In many cases however you do not ask, but have a tendency to command her. Not in words so much as in attitude. She does not feel truly desirable. You can do much to change this.

If your relationship is as important to you as I believe it is, then you will make the effort. The simple fact is that you do need her, and you have not communicated this. Obviously there are reasons for her behavior, and changes also that she can and should make, but I am speaking to you and not to her.

The adjustments necessary are not all on your part, but your adjustments can initiate hers. These remarks, Joseph, do not have to go in the record.