“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

The “lovely young woman” phrase incidentally is an excellent one for him to use. (Jane was so addressed last night in ESP class by one of her students, a male.) He did idealize you in the early days of your relationship, and then made the transition that he mentioned. He was ignoring and hiding his fears to protect you as well as himself.

He felt threatened however then when you voiced your own fears. Looking at him, you can see that the condition, the problem, is a repressed one —the physical symptoms make this obvious. The repression of fears was latched onto for the reasons given in a recent session—the habitual syndrome—do you recall?

There was a basis, therefore. Now in the beginning, now, you need a daily period together where Ruburt can quite freely be encouraged to discuss any fears that have been a part of that day. This will prevent a two-or-three-or-more-day buildup.

Later this will not be necessary, though it should be a frequent pattern in your relationship, and you should feel quite free to discuss your fears then also. Practically this is of great importance for it will help break the repressive habit on the one hand, and help end blockages that have been holding back positive and healthy charges of activity. You will be killing two birds with one stone.

This does not mean that the emphasis should be upon fears. Do you follow me?

If possible these discussions should end with the reassurance that you can work out the practical aspects of your life together, and that you are large enough to understand your fears and use them creatively. This can be a therapeutic measure of great lasting value.

Whenever possible finish up the discussion with at least a brief look at the underlined portions of the sessions on Ruburt’s clipboard. The intellectualization of the fears can be a trick to avoid facing their emotional reality, so beware of that.

When he is in error he sees himself as an old hag, overly cautious with his psychic work, knocks himself over the head for not being freer about it, distrusts it, knocks himself over the head for distrusting it, fearful of emotional expression. Now you missed this fear of emotional expression on his part, because even with it he relates well usually with others. Particularly of course he was afraid of unpleasant emotional expression, or anger.

He learned restraint in this direction with his mother, and all kinds of automatic muscular tensions were then learned to inhibit the expression of fear of anger. So at his worst he feels powerless before it, and there are energy blockages here particularly.

Many of these are perfectly normal fears. He felt it beneath him intellectually to speak of them to you, and felt that you would have no use for him, that you would think he was a cowering, spineless child rather than the independent brave spirit that he tried so hard to be for himself and you.

So in the beginning particularly you may be the one to take the initiative at times, for he may be reluctant, you see—a symptom of the habit. The release of the fears then allows the body to release the natural optimism and healthy emotions that are needed, and the expansion of activity and energy.

They are minimal if the individual is progressing at a psychic level. Many individuals however, relying upon the physical therapy alone, set up negative associations. Say for example that a deeply repressed fear brought about the squeezing of nerves in the area of the lower spinal cord. Without the knowledge that you have, then any sensations in the area of those nerves could then through association activate the original fear, which would in turn aggravate the condition.

As the chiropractor made repeated adjustments, gradually the effect would lessen. Initially however it could be quite strong, and the chiropractor would call it a retracing action. Certain pains through association can (underlined) send an individual backward to the original fear or situation that first caused it.

An example was the Sunday at your mother’s, when he was afraid of the cramp in the leg, which did not come in the way that he feared.

He feels an inferior member of a family, but in a superior position as a teacher, and his fear of being anonymous in a group, or swept up by it, when he is not in control of it, results from these family feelings of a group, and fear of being swept along by emotion.

Now when he was doing disguised autobiographical novels he released his fears through his writing. When the writing changed he buried them as completely as possible. He also stopped writing what he thought of as pessimistic poetry, which had performed the same function, allowing for the expression of fearful emotions. He used some of our material as an excuse to further shove his fears beneath, overexaggerating certain remarks that I had made. You follow me here.

Again, your sessions should allow for the expression and discussion of fears, the giving of comfort and assurance, but not involve emphasis upon fears, as in the two days… You do not need to take notes here….

(Seth then explained he was referring to the days immediately following the deleted session of January 18, 1971, when Jane expressed a lot of her fears, etc.)

He should indeed go out more. I do not want positive suggestions just slipped on like bandages, leaving the fears unreleased or unrecognized. The positive suggestions are extremely important. Clearing the monster woman image will be of great help here. Do you have questions?