“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

I am speaking now of you both. You did not communicate your concern to each other, therefore you did not communicate your hopes. You, now, did for some time get into the habit of nonsmiling, which led Ruburt to further reinforce his own negative ideas of what you are thinking. But all of the symptoms now represent aspects of your lives that you have not faced in a normal above-the-board fashion. It is not so much that you have not solved them, as that you let communication about them gradually fade away.

It naturally reflected all of your own attitudes, the similar and various ways the both of you have of facing reality. So when you discuss it the problem becomes an excellent focal point, showing you how you interact, how you interpret and misinterpret each other, and brings out quite clearly any basic conflicts that you have.

Aggression or fear may rise up. If so face those feelings honestly, for they have been backed up within you. All of this serves to clear the air, opening the channels of communication, so that you do not have to be wondering what the other one is up to now.

(10:25. Jane’s pace had again been fast, as it had all evening. She said Seth was present now really strongly, very immediate, etc. Resume at 10:36.)

Now Ruburt inhibited the negative emotions, so-called, first of all because of his own background—the fear of arguments, of hurting someone, as explained clearly in other sessions. The end result however on both of your parts was the inhibition of emotional expression in your relationship, precisely in those most important areas where it was most needed.

You must forget the ideas you have about each other, and look at the living emotional selves upon which you have built and projected. Ruburt’s health, your work, the Artistic Card aspect and all others will fall into line.

You are both indeed lucky, for you do have a firm basis from which to work. It is not that you do not have an “ideal” in quotes relationship; but you had lost that feeling of the potentials within you. Your relationship fell so far below those standards, and you are so closely bound together, that his would show in all areas.

Our sessions, both of your creative works, the good you have done and are doing, the health that you have maintained—no serious organic defects—all of this is testament to what you have done.

(“All right. Thank you very much, Seth, and good night.”)