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Now. The healthy person takes health for granted. He takes it for granted as he does the air that he breathes. He can appreciate his health as he can appreciate the air, without feeling that either is going to be taken from him. He is not concerned with his health because he takes it on trust unthinkingly, as he takes his life on trust.

The abilities have always been present, however, latent as within each man health is there, though perhaps latent in the same way. The rich man thinks of wealth as a part of himself. He takes it for granted he has it and will achieve more. The poor man takes his poverty for granted, actually on trust, and takes it for granted he will have more of the same.

So is Ruburt in all areas, except that one upon which he has concentrated negatively, and given up trust. I want you to realize that in very important ways, and even in the health area, you are both successful.

Ruburt has always taken it for granted that his organs functioned well, the living organs upon which survival is dependent. There were two areas that he did not quite trust. These were connected with the past, but only in so far as the distrust grew there. But the lack of trust is the important issue.

Later, with certain issues that arose between you, fairly well understood now, I think, he felt his womanly qualities a threat to you both, and the habit of mistrust became manifested in a suspension of monthly periods. We will give you some suggestions on this when I am finished.

This is to lead up to Ruburt’s “as if” game. It is an excellent method. It will work if he follows it, through you must not look for results, in those terms, quickly.

In his “as if” game, have Ruburt imagine he is having his period, buying his Tampax. This is all he need do—not hammer the point. This and your satisfactory sexual relationship, now, will also help. He feels more now that you accept him as a woman. For a while he felt you did not.

He was indeed.

Now. The “as if” game brings the picture of health into the present. Ruburt sees himself imaginatively as completely healthy and free now, which is something he has not been able to do. That is extremely important.

The set and expectations will change. It is important that you try to play this with him, or know what he is doing, simply because you reinforce each other so strongly. So you play your own “as if” game with him. This will help. Do it in the same manner. As Ruburt knows from his reading today (Psycho-Cybernetics) when the dawn suddenly burst, any discouragements should be accepted as part of the learning process with which he is involved—and the failures, particularly of the past, forgotten. You should not remind him of them either, or concentrate upon them yourself.

In the past he often used the image of himself, in his terms “before I got sick,” as a basis of comparison. Worse, he sometimes used the twenty-year-old physical self, which automatically led to some very negative attitudes, since he simply is not twenty.

He wants to be a healthy present self, not a healthy past self. A good deal of the weight problem is not a problem. You have both to some extent overexaggerated it. He can use more weight. The energy used in worrying about the condition has taken up the small leeway that would have given him weight. In the best of health he will not be a heavy person, for example.

Now certain habits should automatically drop away if the game is played correctly. He is not dressing with the freedom of an ordinary healthy good-looking young woman, for example, so he must dress for the role in his “as if” game. Healthy women do not dress to cover up their bodies, to hide their knees or their arms. They dress to show them off.

If the “as if” game is played correctly the dressing habits will change automatically, again without stress. Ruburt fears humiliation. Acting as if he were perfectly healthy, such imagined humiliation would not be automatically projected. This is one area where both of you will have to watch, contrasting the game against immediate physical data.