“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

They can exist with these, but they cannot exist if you insist that such a relationship is the condition upon which you will accept existence. You are saying “Unless existence meets my terms, I will not exist,” and no one has the right to so set themselves against their own innate vitality and the joy of life that is within them.

Once you wholeheartedly accept life on life’s terms, then you may indeed find what you are after, but not while you insist upon it as a condition for continued existence in this life. You have no right to set such terms, any more than a flower would insist upon sunny ground and a preferred spot within the garden as a prerequisite for its own existence.

You are pouting. You are quarreling, and in so doing you cut yourself off from the joy and vitality that do make life worthwhile living. Your own purpose can and will make life a daily pleasure when you let your conditions go. You forget what you do have—physical health and vitality. You forget your intellect, which is a good one, and your intuitions. Many are not blessed with these.

You cannot pervert them by trying to force them to serve purposes that you have set up as a condition of existence. You must live in the faith that your purpose is and will be fulfilled, is being fulfilled and will be fulfilled. You must live in the faith that you have such a meaning and purpose, or you would not be here.

Now I tell you this to clear the air, and show you that your conditions will not be met while you hold them as conditions. Only when you accept life and do not hold conditions...

Now. Practically speaking, you must stop insisting upon male-female personal love as the condition of existence. You must accept life on its own terms with the faith that your life now has a meaning and a beauty and a purpose. You can do this, and I know that you can do it. Then you will begin to see the meaning in your life that has always been there, and the purpose and joy that you have not been able to fill.

Instead your love is very wide and deep. It can aid many people, for it is ungeneralized and vast, and it will bring you much satisfaction and pleasure as it helps others. But you must not insist on any one condition as a prerequisite for existence. I am not saying that you will not have what you want, again, but as long as you hold the wish as a condition of existence you will not.

Now you have latched upon this particular preoccupation, but what it is in the end makes no difference. It could have been something else entirely. There are people who feel that existence is meaningless without wealth. Now this sounds idiotic to you. There are people who have committed suicide because they established wealth as a condition of existence. They were unable (underlined) to appreciate a love relationship because of this preoccupation, and you have been unwilling to appreciate the true miracle of your existence because of your preoccupation. (Loudly.)

If every cell set up the conditions of its own existence you would not have a body. The conditions blind you to what life is, even to the miraculous balance and imbalance of physical and nonphysical that allows you to think and breathe. Forget your conditions and you will realize the meaning of joy within your own life.

When you cease holding this as a condition of existence, then you may very well be loved by a man. But no one sets the conditions, or pouts in a corner, or threatens suicide without courting severe difficulties. Ruburt has ridiculed the conventional idea of a god who says “Do what I want you to do or I will destroy you,” and yet you say to life “Give me what I want or I threaten to destroy myself.”

Now I speak to you honestly, and while you may find my words harsh they are spoken with both love and compassion, and (underlined) understanding of your innermost thoughts. Your salvation lies in giving up personal male love and marriage as (underlined) a condition for existence. Because you do often misinterpret me, I repeat: this does not mean you will not find such a male and relationship. But it does mean you will not find this while you hold it as a condition of existence.

I would impress her with the fact that her existence will be more joyful than she can imagine, more productive and fulfilling, when she lets these conditions go. Now the whole answer to her dilemma is in this session, and she must understand that she is capable of doing what I suggest, and that the joys and rewards will be beyond her present (underlined) expectations.

There is no other way, and there never has been. Life accepted on its own terms will yield secrets of joy and peace and exuberance. You cannot coerce it. You cannot force it and you cannot set conditions.

Now. Ruburt you see in the past was setting conditions.

He would be a famous writer, on his own terms, (underlined) or he would not accept life joyfully. He would limit the ways in which life expressed itself through him, or at times he felt he would not operate at all. He would be a novelist and a poet, as the conditions of his happy existence, of his joyful existence, or he would not operate naturally.

He learned, and he is still learning, and so your friend must learn. You do not set conditions upon life. This is the greatest lesson that anyone can learn. Basically, basically, there is no other, for this one includes all others.

Vitality and joy and creativity move through you all spontaneously if you (underlined) do not set up barriers in terms of preconceptions and conditions; and all your desires will be met, but never when you set them up as conditions for your existence. The life that is within you knows only these terms: continued unpredetermined development, expansion; it will not flow in predetermined patterns or demands.

Now as you know from certain signs, I am quite prepared to go on for some time, giving you literally whatever information I can concerning Ruburt’s condition, or your friend’s, but I realize the hour is late and your fingers tired. Make your own decision. I have done, and am doing, the very best that I can, out of love for your friend.

I wish you then a hearty good evening, and to your friend, our present beloved young woman, Ruburt’s Pat Norelli, my best wishes for a beginning now, of vitality and joy, as you throw aside all conditions, and accept your life for what it is and will (underlined) be—a joy, an exaltation to yourself, and a help to all those you will still contact.

(There had undoubtedly been a strong emotional condition operating during this session, and at its end both Jane and I felt a strong lassitude, most unusual for us after a session. It lasted for perhaps half an hour. The intensity of the experience made it seem that much more time had passed; both of us were surprised to realize the comparatively early hour.)