“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

Now. You have a fine, strong and worthwhile purpose, but you will not fulfill it well while you rail against what you do not have, and ignore the abilities and gifts and blessings that you do have.

You will not discover the purpose and meaning of your life when you insist that it follow certain consciously predetermined roads, and while you concentrate upon what you do not have. This saps your energy and dulls your intuitions. You are indeed obsessed with the idea of marriage, and with male love, but as Joseph mentioned this is but a symptom.

It is a superficial concept, as if your individuality, merit and worth, are only activated if you have a strong sex, love or married relationship. Your survival, your unique abilities, and your purpose, exist quite apart from these.

You are pouting. You are quarreling, and in so doing you cut yourself off from the joy and vitality that do make life worthwhile living. Your own purpose can and will make life a daily pleasure when you let your conditions go. You forget what you do have—physical health and vitality. You forget your intellect, which is a good one, and your intuitions. Many are not blessed with these.

You cannot pervert them by trying to force them to serve purposes that you have set up as a condition of existence. You must live in the faith that your purpose is and will be fulfilled, is being fulfilled and will be fulfilled. You must live in the faith that you have such a meaning and purpose, or you would not be here.

The uniqueness that is your own personality is to be cherished. It has (underlined) a meaning. You have no more right to crush it than you have to crush a flower. The particular purpose of your present (underlined) personality can only be met in the present circumstances, in the way that is best overall. The challenges can be met at another time and in another life, this is true, but the particular people that you can help and the particular good that you can do, can never be done in precisely (underlined) the same way.

Now. Practically speaking, you must stop insisting upon male-female personal love as the condition of existence. You must accept life on its own terms with the faith that your life now has a meaning and a beauty and a purpose. You can do this, and I know that you can do it. Then you will begin to see the meaning in your life that has always been there, and the purpose and joy that you have not been able to fill.

Now my dear young friend for whom I have great affection, there is no other way. Life must be accepted. You do not set the terms. You are worth while, and unique and glorious, whether or not you are loved by a man. You have a purpose and it is yours to fulfill, whether or not you are loved by a man.

Now. The answer is no. When you understand my idea of life, then you do not destroy yourself in any form. You do not take it for granted that in the next life you will solve your problems. You take it for granted that this form and this personality, like all your other personalities, is unique, with purpose that it alone can best (underlined) achieve.