“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

You create many of your own difficulties, if not all of them. This is true for all individuals. The inner psychological state is projected outward, gaining physical reality. This holds true regardless of the nature of that inner psychological state. The way that this is done has been discussed often and is on record in the material. I suggest you read it. The rules apply to everyone. You can use this for your own benefit and change your conditions, once you realize what the rules are.

You cannot escape your own attitudes, for they will form the nature of what you see. Quite literally, you see what you want to see, and you see your own thoughts, your own emotional attitudes, materialized in physical form. If changes are to occur, they must be physical and psychic changes. These will be reflected in your physical environment. Negative, distrustful, fearful, or degrading attitudes toward anyone work against the self and against the individuals involved. Now if you would change an individual, change your thoughts toward him, and changes will appear in the sense data world.

You are not speaking of basic issues. You are flying paper dragons to be punctured, but these are not the real dragons. You must learn to listen to the voice of your inner self, for if you know the use you are to this man, you do not recognize the nature of his use to you.