“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

There is a strong and rather aggressive nature beneath the surface personality of the questioner, of which the questioner is frightened, to some extent therefore a divided self. The male is passive and of a submissive mind, and given to an obsession with overconsideration for security. He will always seek security, but he enjoys being the object of a chase of this nature.

The proper purpose should be the development of the self, and the development of abilities, and it is to elude this responsibility that the chase was originated. The excitement of the chase is being substituted for the excitement that is required and demanded by the questioner, and rightly so because of the questioner’s psychological makeup.

There are definite reasons why the questioner chose the particular personality for this quest. An attempt was made to find a suitable substitute, you see, and a particular group of circumstances then seized upon, in order to initiate the proceedings. The questioner is subconsciously aware of those abilities that should be developed in her own personality, and attempts to project these outward into someone else. Then you see you search for the someone else, neatly labeled, but the capabilities and personality developments must be pursued within the self. You cannot chase after them and possess them by pretending they belong to someone else.

You would not be happy with the male, and you intuitively realize this. The obsession to have him grows precisely in proportion to your inner realization that you do not want him, but only the excitement involved in searching for him. You must end the search and face the self.

You have a full stature as a personality that you are not reaching. There is a self into which you shall grow, a strong intuitive self in full control of its own destiny so far as is possible. This is the self that you cannot deny, and this should be the object of your search for now.

Nor would such a counterfeit pattern suit you for long. Self-questioning and doubts would begin to drive you to distraction. You have inner strength that will give you your own sense of identity and continuity. Any inner security will come from this. You cannot abdicate, you see.

Again, the goal should be a development into the best possible self. There will be areas of contention with the young man with whom you are now involved.