“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

They also underestimate dream events, for many associations in your present are the result of events which have occurred in the dream state. The mind is hardly shut off when you dream. It continues to use its associative processes. Therefore any given personal association may originate from a dream event as well as from a past waking event.

(John said it was all right for the personal material to be included in this record, and it is a good example of the way Seth handles such data. Jane and I, incidentally, have never met John’s wife. Most of the family material is self-explanatory. During break John gave us some information; briefly, it has to do with his restlessness in his job, his wife’s reactions, his wife’s parents, his own strong need to assert his independence, etc. John is also active politically in Pennsylvania, as a conservative. He is an excellent medical representative for Searle Drug, but feels he is not being extended enough in his work; he wants more challenge. Seth has advised patience here; John said this is difficult for him but that he is carefully considering the advice. Searle itself is going through a difficult time managerially and financially.

Now, the girl respects Philip because he will not be dominated. On the other hand the woman image that she understands, because of her mother, is a dominating woman image. To her she fails as a female if she cannot hold him in line. At the same time her personality is far different than her mother’s, and less focused.

(John said he agreed with Seth’s material. He verified that a situation does arise on Wednesdays in his home. Every other week a cleaning woman works at his home on Wednesdays, helping his wife with heavier chores. John’s wife is named Mary-Ellen, the cleaning woman is Lois. Lois, John said, is around 40 years old, and she has her own personal problems. Mary-Ellen is not the type to talk with others about personal affairs, John said, but he has had the thought that she may get satisfaction listening to others talk about their troubles. Lois is a talker.

However, in the main you are doing two things wrong. You are treating her primarily as a woman rather than an individual person; but you are not treating her as a desirable woman rather than an individual person.

If you treat her as a desirable woman, you will find a difference in your home atmosphere. If you cannot do this, then you must treat her primarily as an individual person. But if you treat her as a woman primarily, it must be as a desirable woman, or she will find no content as a woman or as an individual.

The adjustments necessary are not all on your part, but your adjustments can initiate hers. You are concerned, and have made efforts, but you are better equipped, simply because of your personality structure, to make these efforts. She is at this point like a child in the woods, but the potentialities are there for an excellent relationship. We will take a break or end the session, as you prefer.