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I am glad that at least Ruburt seems merry, since Philip is obviously in such low inner spirits.

Strength shows itself. Strength is respected, but true strength is the result of excellent communication between the outer self that faces the world, and the inner self that looks inward.

Men sense fear. Men know a bluff. For your individual integrity, you must be willing to jeopardize present financial security; and if you are willing to do this, these men will sense that they cannot sway you, and they will accept your terms in the main.

What you are willing to jeopardize, you will not jeopardize. What you fear to jeopardize, you will lose. These points are extremely important, and they will work, Philip. There is an almost animal sense with which men know another’s fear, and they can bargain with you if they scent fear.

However, when the issue comes, if you hold firm, then they will take you on your terms rather than lose you. But this is dependent upon their knowledge that your stand is sincere and determined. If they sense that you will compromise, not in small matters but in basic principles, then you lose this club that you now hold over their heads.

I will not dare to go into a general discussion on the subject of women, since Ruburt would really boil. I do not know why he would react in such a manner; only out of a mistaken sense of loyalty, I suppose.

What they fear is that the responsibilities of independence will be thrust upon them. Philip’s most personal inner image, the primary inner image, is of a single, free, independent male.

The image is tied up with certain emotions usually connected with the institution of marriage, and with being a respectable breadwinner and a father. You have not completely introduced your inner image, but only hinted at it, so that to her it is secondary and unreal, when she is faced by actual events in which you behave as the inner image, she is bewildered, confused, and imagines that you are demented.