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Do not be so frantic to get them. Do not grab hold so strongly, or you strangle the information that you receive. Be open and be quiet for a moment.
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Now give us a moment. There is something in particular that frightened him, and he does not know how to put it into words. He is frightened of an older man. This, I presume, to be the grandfather.
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And not of the man himself, but of a difference between the man and yourself. A difference in the behavior of two personalities that he holds dear. Now give us a moment here. He has been identifying with you as his male image. There are some adjacent personalities about your home which also serve as semi-images in this respect. When he is away from you, however, in his particular case, any characteristics that are not yours that he sees in his grandfather somehow become threatening. He wants to identify with both of you. He wants to think of you in some manner as one. Any individual differences between the two of you upset him. When the two of you are together, you and grandfather, there is no difficulty because the boy, in his own mind, interweaves these characteristics. When he is alone, however, with the older man, any characteristic of his that does not agree with yours becomes threatening to him.
Now this is an individual thing as far as the child is concerned, and if you give me a moment we will try to find out why. In his previous background there were some problems having to do with authority figures.
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