“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

(To Sue.) Now this one over here. You are doing very well, as you know, in your dream work. You are doing well in your creative work also, and in your writing. You forget there are problems you must work through, and that in the struggle to create further creativity results. If you are satisfied with less, then you do not search further. Now, Ruburt’s way is too expensive. Your way you can pay, do you see the difference? You have your own way. It is too expensive to try to follow someone else’s way, and that is the message of the dream. Also, remember your own childlike self and the two of you, when you think of your son, imagine what you were like at that age and how difficult it was to communicate to your parents.

([Gert:] “What causes parents to become so irritable?”)

Now, I have been both a mother and a father many times and so I understand your problem but the fact is this. When you are a parent it is impossible for you to completely remember your own childhood or to understand the feelings of consciousness that are growing at that time. Now, as a parent, your chore is to train a consciousness to manipulate in physical reality. The consciousness, by that time, far more free than your own and you are quite jealous of their spontaneity and of their inner understanding. They do not have to hoe the line as you do and yet, you are supposed to teach them how to hoe the line.

It is largely cultural in your particular environment. Now, in some native cultures this is not true, but you are learning to encourage spontaneity, and yet within certain areas there must be a concentration of abilities in the physical line and in this extent you are a teacher and you are learning as you teach them. You also experience their own frustrations, and this makes you angry. When you were a child you could be angry at the parent. When you are a parent you can feel the child’s anger but you do not know what to do. When you are a child you can blame the parent. When you are a parent there is no one to blame. Therefore, you are forced to ask about the nature of reality. You are angry because you do not understand, as yet, the nature of reality and you have no answers but you can learn the proper questions. You can learn to experience again that spontaneity and to encourage it.

(Sue and Ned explained to Jane what Seth had said to them as parents and that Sue was overindulging Sean.)

She is, indeed, but that is not the reason for your reaction. Do not confuse the two. You are annoyed because you are annoyed and it has nothing to do with her overreaction and overindulgence. I did not say you were a bitchy parent. I was not that harsh or severe. That was your interpretation.