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It does indeed. It means that you use your strengths however; it means not only that you refuse to be a doormat, but that you accept yourself as a worthy personality, willing to give and to take, willing even to be used at times as you use, but not willing to be a doormat. It means that you must accept your worth and also the responsibility for it. It means that you say, “I come to this marriage as an individual, willing to give and take, with my own good points and failings—but, I do not come to this marriage as a worthless individual willing to take from you whatever you are willing to take and to give. But you must know yourself to do this, and you must be willing to look into yourself.

Now you must forget such ideas—that a male has certain abilities and a female has certain abilities. You must realize your worth as an individual and her worth as an individual. You have allowed her, in the past, to take full control of your life and destiny, and this no individual can do. For your destiny is within your own hands.