“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

I want you, in other words, to make tangible evidence of your own good points and accomplishments, so that when you are lost in periods of depression and negative thinking there will be something that you can look at. And you can say, “I am a person with good points and accomplishments, and here they are listed for me.” It will stop you from tearing yourself down from morning to night. This seems like a very simple suggestion, and yet it is a very valuable one.

([Brad:]“This means that 1 have to be a much stronger personality.”)

It does indeed. It means that you use your strengths however; it means not only that you refuse to be a doormat, but that you accept yourself as a worthy personality, willing to give and to take, willing even to be used at times as you use, but not willing to be a doormat. It means that you must accept your worth and also the responsibility for it. It means that you say, “I come to this marriage as an individual, willing to give and take, with my own good points and failings—but, I do not come to this marriage as a worthless individual willing to take from you whatever you are willing to take and to give. But you must know yourself to do this, and you must be willing to look into yourself.