“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

You would indeed, and you would learn nothing! You are not here to accept ready answers; you are here to use your abilities, to consider your problems as challenges and to work them out.

You must first of all realize that within you there is somewhere the miraculous knowledge that keeps your body alive and operating. This portion of yourself, despite all your problems, keeps you alive as a physical organism. Its knowledge is beyond the wisdom of any man or woman alive! If that portion of yourself can make all the scientific and biological deductions necessary to maintain your physical organism, then indeed it has the abilities to solve these other problems. When you fully realize this, and you can if you remind yourself of it often enough, you can draw upon this knowledge to solve your problems. If you accept answers from others, you will simply run into the same problem again and again, and you will have solved nothing.

Now, I have said this before: On the physical level, your problem is to find a position. You have done very well lately in meeting your appointments, and this is definitely an advance. On the psychological level, you need to know why the relationship between you and your wife continued as it was for so many years. Most of all you need to know yourself as an individual, with your good points and your failings. But, as long as you continually look to others for advice, you deny your own abilities.

Now I will tell you something to do. I will give you some advice to follow. And it is very simple. This is what I want you to do: I want you to make a list of your good points, of your abilities. I want to see this in black and white. I want you to take some care in making up the list. I want you to put it in front of you and look at it three times a day.

Ruburt, in the past, has given you some good advice. No one, and I repeat this, no one can or should make decisions for you. However, I hope to reinforce your inner knowledge that you do have the ability to make decisions, and good ones. You have progressed, you have progressed in the appointments that you have made and kept. But your inner problem does not have to do with work, but why you did not find work in the past. It does not have to do with your marriage. It has to do with those needs of yours that were satisfied within that marriage.

You are endowing her with what you imagine to be highly efficient masculine qualities. You are endowing yourself with what you imagine to be feminine qualities. Now the human being is a gestalt of perception. There are no qualities as such that are masculine or feminine. You are knocking down those abilities that are your own because you conceive of them as feminine. And in your mind you are setting Margo up as highly efficient because she has those abilities that you think should be your own because you think that they are masculine qualities. So you are allowing yourself to behave in what you imagine to be a subservient, feminine behavior. Now this is all a result of your own attitude, and she has reacted to that attitude, and reinforced it, because she wants to be dominant. One portion of her wants to be dominant; the other portion looks to you as a man, and there you fail her, because you refuse to assert the independence that is your nature. It seems to contradict your artistic nature and there is no contradiction. The contradiction only exists in your mind. She looks to you for direction and you do not give it, and therefore—if all within this room will excuse me—she turns into a bitch.

Now you must forget such ideas—that a male has certain abilities and a female has certain abilities. You must realize your worth as an individual and her worth as an individual. You have allowed her, in the past, to take full control of your life and destiny, and this no individual can do. For your destiny is within your own hands.

([Theodore:] “Is it the entity that has been evolving from this chaos, or is it the ability of the entity to manifest itself that has evolved—or both?”)

The ability to manifest itself—and the always new creativity. For the entity itself is involved in a surprise, in a new creation. There are always new creations. And the entity, and even God himself—pyramid gestalts—must be involved in surprise and new creations. There is no ending in those terms. Even the gods surprise themselves.