“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

Ruburt, in the past, has given you some good advice. No one, and I repeat this, no one can or should make decisions for you. However, I hope to reinforce your inner knowledge that you do have the ability to make decisions, and good ones. You have progressed, you have progressed in the appointments that you have made and kept. But your inner problem does not have to do with work, but why you did not find work in the past. It does not have to do with your marriage. It has to do with those needs of yours that were satisfied within that marriage.

The relationship can indeed be begun again, but only under completely new terms, and only with self-knowledge on our friends part. Otherwise, the relationship will be continued and you will be no better off than you were before and worse. Self-knowledge on both of your parts is extremely necessary.

Your (to Brad) attitude, changed, will automatically alter her attitude as she reacts to the change in yours. You give each other subconscious cues to which you then react. You can change the cues that you give, and therefore intensely alter the situation, and lead her to self-knowledge.

You must not change in order to get her back; you must change to get yourself back, but a new self. You must change to realize the self that you are.

You must learn what it is like to be male and female, to be parent and child. And you will go through the cycles until you can relate with others. And if you cannot understand them from your own viewpoint, then you will become them. And from their viewpoint you will see yourselves. This is the meaning of learning. You will extend your consciousness, as you know it, from the self that you know outward and relate to others and understand them. Or you will take their positions and from their consciousness observe the selves that no longer exist in your time. But you will learn.

Each of you has been both male and female. Some of you have been mothers but not fathers, or fathers but not mothers. You have died before reaching adulthood—or you have lived and become senile—or you have lived and attained wisdom. But your identity and your inner self is independent of these reincarnations. And the vitality that dwells within you has known many forms.

Reality and consciousness are in the state, always, of becoming. God himself, in your terms, is in a state of becoming. A state of completion would be an end, and the end of all realities. Therefore, at no particular point is your entity, your inner self, done and completed.