1 result for (book:ecs2 AND heading:"esp class session decemb 8 1970" AND stemmed:pretend)
[... 47 paragraphs ...]
Consciousness has its built-in protection. But when this is not spontaneously admitted and when out of fear of evil it is repressed this is when it gains additional charge. And so for release that it turns into violence, both individually and en masse. You are so afraid of violence that you do not try to understand what lies behind it. Or the creative nature that lies within it. Violence is a distortion of a thrust toward activity and when you realize this you can use it creatively. When out of fear you try to pretend that it does not exist or, on the other hand, you fear it so drastically that you shove it under, then it is magnified and can do damage.
[... 2 paragraphs ...]
Do not, therefore, exaggerate the situation or magnify it by imagining this feeling as affecting the other person involved. Say, “I feel this way and I must express it at this time or be honest, but he has his protection from my feelings. He is filled with the vitality of life even as I am.” But if you ignore the feeling or pretend that it does not exist, then it is repressed within you and it draws to it all those other repressed violences; minute, insignificant details, seemingly, that gain charge until they fill you and must be expressed. Then you can meet the same individual four years later when the situation is forgotten and react violently and hurt him, where harmlessly the feeling automatically and spontaneously would have been expressed.
[... 5 paragraphs ...]